09/30/2014 04:03 pm ET Updated Sep 30, 2014

What Not To Say To A Parent Who Has Suffered The Loss Of A Child

Losing a child is unspeakably painful, so finding the right words to say to those grieving can be difficult.

Two parents who have both lost a child spoke with HuffPost Live's Nancy Redd about their experiences and gave advice about what not to say to mourning parents.

"Don't say things like, 'I know how you feel,' or 'this will get better,' or 'this too will pass,'" said Abi Crouch, founder of A Heart to Hold. "Just be there for your friend or family member."

Crouch added that one of the most powerful things you can do is to say the child's name and to reach out on significant events, like birthdays.

"That's huge, and we hear from moms all the time that that just makes their heart take flight," Crouch said.

For advice on how to support a parent suffering a loss, see the video above, and watch the full segment on transforming tragedy after losing a child here.

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