Progressive ideas are an endangered species, on the run in politics, all but extinct in schools. Watch out for these covertly regressive ideas invading our parenting of very young children. When we are doing one of the most challenging jobs around, we all need something to lean on. But while these phrases might seem like quick, smart, even benign interventions to stop unwanted behaviors, a closer look shows how they miss their goal, and worse, undermine your relationship with your 1-, 2- or 3-year-old child. Progressive ideas aim to create a tolerant, respectful, nurturing social environment in which we can all develop and learn to relate to each other without punitive restraints, but these phrases echo and impose a set of values and conditions we reject for the wider world.