01/16/2015 03:40 pm ET

To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This - NYTimes.com

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More than 20 years ago, the psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love in his laboratory. Last summer, I applied his technique in my own life, which is how I found myself standing on a bridge at midnight, staring into a man’s eyes for exactly four minutes.

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