05/04/2015 05:36 pm ET Updated May 04, 2015

What These Students Have Learned About Dating After 4 Years Of College

For David Matteson, a sex columnist and graduating senior at Rollins College, four years of college has given him a new perspective on dating.

"I've realized a lot. I've gone through a really hard break-up and come out of that and realized, OK, I was so invested in this model for so long and I was seeking fulfillment in that way, and it just isn't satisfying," Matteson said in a recent HuffPost Live segment. "It produces so much anxiety in me. [I would ask], is he going to call? Are we going to be together? Are we going to get married? I spent so much of my time focusing my energy on that."

One of the lessons Matteson learned: "The real loves were the people I became friends with. Those were the people who saw me through everything, and I'm so thankful for my friends."

Fellow sex columnist Reina Gattuso said that her college experience has taught her how to tackle "awkward conversations" in a relationship and begin "advocating" for herself. The Harvard University senior said that friendships have become a priority for her as well.

"As I graduate, I'm so in love with my friends. I'm so in love with my roommates. I'm so in love with the people I interact with everyday in the dining hall," Gattuso said, before joking, "Now my ideal relationship would be just some friends I can make out with occasionally, but we'll see if that happens in the real world."

Watch the full HuffPost Live conversation about college relationships here.

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