Three high school girls who say they've been the victims of bullying are having a hard time moving forward even though it's been months since the alleged incidents. Hanna, 17, claims she was beat up by a girl she thought was her friend after a fight over a boy, while others stood around videotaping and laughing. Lily, 15, alleges she was hit in the head by a bully, and the incident was videotaped and posted to social media. And, Hannah, 17 says she always felt like a target of the "mean girls" in school, and the bullying got so bad that she was forced to be homeschooled.
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Dr. Phil tells the teens that they need to give themselves permission to move past the alleged incidents. "The big problem about being bullied is that the bullies might say something to you like 30 times, but you repeat it 10,000 times. It isn't what they say; it's what you say to yourself about what they say. It's this internal dialogue you have, and you've got to take your power back," he says in the video above. He explains that the girls can continue to let the past define them, or they can say, "Wait a minute. I've got to be my own best friend here. I have the power to choose how I feel about this. I'm not going to be embarrassed. I'm not going to be traumatized for the rest of my life." He concludes, "Time heals nothing; it's what you do with that time."
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