09/28/2015 11:57 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Why Do Married Men Turn To Dating Websites For Excitement?

Are humans truly meant to be together for life? Or are people always going to be tempted by outside desires, no matter the circumstances? We had psychotherapist and relationship specialist Lisa Brateman on the show to talk with us about the state of monogamy, obstacles to commitment in the modern age, and how we can work through issues of loyalty in our own relationships.

What is
For those who maybe haven't explored the option, is a Canada-based online matchmaking service marketed to people who are married or in a committed relationship. But that may be putting it nicely; the tagline for the website is the"Life is short. Have an affair." The website guarantees privacy in this exchange, billing the users through credit card under discrete aliases. But after a recent database hacking, 36 million names and email addresses of the sites users were leaked, with widespread personal and professional repercussions.

Why do men (and women) feel the need engage in this in the first place? Well, Lisa says, mostly because "they didn't think they could get caught." The ability to explore desire privately, from the comfort of your computer, and have it "not be about the relationship" is too tempting for many to pass up. "The idea that women on the site would also be in a similar situation" is a nice "bow on the package," she says.

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