No matter what your opinion is on shopping, there's one thing we can all agree on -- the parking lot is a paved hell. It should be simple. Park the car, get out of the car, go about your business. But there are always a few who go to the dark side and ruin it for everyone else.
Lusting after a closer parking spot turns many people into Parking Spot Stalkers so overcome with desire for your spot that they dedicate themselves to claiming it for their own.
While the logic employed by the Parking Spot Stalker makes sense -- a closer spot is often more desirable than one farther away -- there can be a troubling gray area when it comes to their actions. If it's dark out and you're a woman being followed by a car creeping up behind you like Charles Manson in a Volvo, it's safe to assume they're not sightseeing and it's hard not to feel as if you're about to become a special on Dateline.
And God forbid if you forget where you park and have to cut through across the lane to find your car, as they'll think it was an intentional move on your part, speed past you with a look of disgust and be forced to park in a spot that's a full 10 feet farther away.
When lust gets overtaken by blinding envy, you are presented with the Parking Spot Rusher. This driver is so envious of your spot that they don't patiently keep a safe distance back, turn on their blinker and wait. No, along with blocking other people from passing, they keep creeping up closer and closer while rolling their eyes and sighing so loudly you can hear it through two layers of car window glass.
This just in: The person in the parking spot cares more about trying to load a week's worth of groceries into the trunk of their car before trying to strap a tired and cranky kid into a car seat than you finding a suitable spot at that second. Unless you're going to get out and help them load up the car, just keep a safe distance back.
There are certain people who feel themselves to be above the laws of parking space lines and take up two or three spots. They presumably feel their vehicle is so pristine and important that the thought of the unwashed masses coming near it can't even be entertained. You're not a special snowflake. Color inside the lines.
While envy and lust can cause people to act out in pursuit of a prime parking location, it's also up to the person who parked there not to let that position of power go to their head. When walking in a parking lot, it's important to make your intentions clear. If you're leaving and sense the parking lot stalker, a simple nod at your car will suffice to alert them that yes, you will be leaving.
If you're going back into the store, shake your head so they can journey down the lot and continue to stalk someone else.
The grocery carts have a home. The carts like to go to their home, which is clearly marked and not hidden in some cart corral cave accessible only through a series of security measures and secret handshakes. Moms who have to do their shopping with youngsters in tow get a pass -- as long as they make an effort to put the cart where it won't obstruct someone else's ability to park -- but for everyone else, laziness is no excuse.
A shopping cart left to run amok could possibly cause a great deal of damage and injury, not to mention those abandoned in empty spots will inevitably cause someone to pull halfway in before realizing the cart is there and angrily backing out, pissing off people behind them. Nobody wins.
How many times have you been driving through a parking lot when out of nowhere some lunatic comes speeding at you from the opposite direction -- ignoring the yellow lines and arrows painted on the ground -- and nearly causes a head-on collision?
News flash: Just because you're pissed your wife sent you back to the store for tampons doesn't mean the rules of the road don't exist when a trip to Costco is involved. Follow the yellow brick road, so to speak. The arrows are there for a reason.
They say pride comes before the fall, and this applies to pedestrians walking down the middle of the lane as if they have superhuman pedestrian powers that override people in their cars trying to get past or around them. Pick a side -- any side -- and no one gets hurt.
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