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10/14/2016 05:00 pm ET Updated Oct 14, 2017

How to Make A Man Miss You

Have you ever heard this one?

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder."

Well when you've got a good thing going with someone, it's absolutely true.

Missing someone is a sign that you truly care about them and that their presence isn't easy to replace.

Here's the thing:

There are five essential ways you can make a man miss you. They are ridiculously effective when it comes to pulling on his heartstrings and keeping him all yours.

Watch this week's video, "How to Make a Man Miss You" to find out what they are.

Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet was right--parting really is "such sweet sorrow."

The feeling of longing and passion you get from missing someone can be part of the super-glue that keeps your relationship together.

Basically, if he's yearning for you, then you're doing things right.

So... how do you like men to show you that they miss you? Let me know by leaving a comment below.

Your Coach,
Adam

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Summary -


1. Be the type of woman he would actually miss.


Humans are actually very simple. Either we pursue pleasure or we avoid pain.

If when he's with you he's laughing, he enjoys your company, he's connecting with you, he's getting complimented when he does the right things, he's going to feel pleasure, he's going to enjoy that, and he's going to want more.

On the other hand, if he's with you and all he's hearing is nagging for every little thing he does, complaints from you about your girlfriends, or just generally bringing no personality to the table, then all he's going to feel is pain. This will not lead to him missing you.

2. Give him some space.


Now, this might sound a little cliché, but one common theme I've noticed in all relationships is  is that men usually want a little more space than women do. Men are very different from women. If he needs a healthy amount of space, you've gotta give it to him.

If you're finding that you never ever want space from him, it's time for you to start finding your own space. Find things that you can put yourself into. Create your own little space away from him. It's really important when two people are together to create their own space and time away from each other.

3. Stop trying to make him miss you.


Look, men aren't stupid. We know when women are subtly trying to get our attention.

If when you're apart you're doing the following things: tagging him in photos on Facebook, sending him a Snapchat every ten minutes to get his attention, texting his friends to see what they're up to, or posting pictures with other guys on Instagram to make him a little jealous... he's not going to miss you. He's going to get frustrated and want to be away from you.

4. Move slower than he wants.


You didn't take control of the pace of the relationship. You didn't let him miss you. You gave all of yourself to him right from the start and there was nothing to miss. A lot of women assume that just because a guy really wants to keep seeing them, they should do this. However, my advice is to put the brakes on. Let him have space. Let him yearn for you a little bit, because that space is going to allow you to get to know each other, instead of just giving in and seeing each other every single night. You guys are still strangers and then suddenly the entire relationship just burns up into flames. He realizes, maybe it's moving a little bit fast and he wants to slow things down, and then you get mad and the whole thing ends. We don't want that to happen. So, again, move slower than he wants.

5. Leave a little mystery in the conversation.


Now, there's a reason why when we watch a trailer to a movie we can't wait to watch the movie. Because we get, of course, a taste of what the movie is all about but we have no idea what the whole full picture is about. We certainly don't know how it ends.

Same thing when you're going out and meeting people or when you're on the first couple of dates. You don't need to tell him your three biggest life accomplishments on that first date. Spread it out a little bit. Keep him wanting more. And when he believes there's more depth to you, when he knows he wants to keep seeing you... he's going to miss you. He's going to want to dive into that complex person that is you.

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