12/10/2014 06:23 pm ET Updated Feb 09, 2015

Get High Off Your Own Supply


I lost my phone this morning. I searched for an hour and ransacked my entire house. I still couldn't find it. I panicked. Not so much for the phone itself, more so for the incriminating pics and the volumes of personal notes I saved on it. They are irreplaceable and embarrassing if ever shown the light of day. God forbid they end up in the wrong hands.

After I made my house look like a burglar fumbled through it, I went to my neighbor's house and to ask her to call my phone. My urgent knock abruptly woke her up. She greeted me wearing a tie dyed muumuu and a look that would make a baby cry in terror. She proceeded to dial my number and a few seconds later I felt my right butt cheek vibrating. Sheepishly, I pulled out my phone from my back pocket and gave ole meanie an awkward smile.

As I walked back home something occurred to me, I've been feeling really good as of late and I was figuring out why this was so? That little tremble on my ass muscle gave me a major insight! I stopped looking for happiness. Instead, I focused on peace of mind and happiness came in through the back door.

You see I used to search for happiness through external sources. Whether it was drugs, alcohol, toxic relationships, or materialistic things. Sure those things made me happy, but it was short-lived and it fleeted fast. Soon after I would feel empty and alone. Even worse than I was before the temporary moment of joy. Every time I looked outward for my high, shortly after, I felt the low. It wasn't until I stopped chasing the highs, when they started looking for me. I've come to find that everything in life comes to you when you don't look for it.

Stop searching for money, love and happiness. Allow it to find you. The key is not to look outward, but rather to look inward. Inner peace is within your grasp at all times. All you need to do is look inside your heart to find it. No matter what the outside circumstances are whether you are angry, anxious, sad or scared. Look inside to find your place of peace and surrender to whatever is going on.

Wishing it were better only makes it worse. Be at peace with where you are. Even if you're feeling crappy. Feel the emotion and embrace it. SCREAM! CRY! RUN around the block a few times!

Let it out. Let it pass. To not feel your emotions is to be void of life.

As soon as you experience it, return back to your place of peace. Your home, the place where happiness exists and emanates from.It's your true essence. Everything else is secondary.If you're able to breathe then you can tap into that bliss.

Yes, you're going to pass though storms, that's a given. But remember, no matter how volatile the sky is, when you rise above the dark clouds there's a place of peace and serenity. A place called space.

Space exists above the clouds and inside you. Tap into your inner space and get High off your own Supply. By taking some ME time everyday, you'll tap into your inner space.

Sitting in silence has been proven to be one of the most proven ways to reduce your thinking process. By forcing yourself to go in an empty room, sit there, and observe your breathing and your thoughts gives you an immense level of power to slow down your thinking process.

It also makes you neutral, that when your mind is is an insane tornado, you're able to underground and you're never touched by the turbulence of an over thinking mind. When you sit in silence, you expose the thoughts that hold you back. Once they are shown the light of day, they dissolve back to the illusion that kept you confused.

So keep this in mind, the next time you search for something, make sure you don't already have it in you.

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