04/21/2015 06:09 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

You Are Not Alone, We're in This Together


This week is National Infertility Awareness week. The fact that we need a whole week to raise awareness on this matter says a lot about how much need there is for support and understanding. Millions of women who are trying to conceive have trouble getting pregnant. Even though there are so many of us out there, I know every single one of us can often feel alone or deserted at one point or another.

I still haven't figured out why this happens. Why aren't we able to talk openly about our struggles, cry, and be angry? Why do we have to pretend that everything is all right? Why do we have to bottle it up until it's too much? Are we ashamed that our bodies aren't responding? Why is it so hard to find the kind of support and advice we need?

I've overcome my fertility issues. I have a one year old boy who I waited for three years and I'm 22 weeks pregnant and yet, as I sit here writing, I can feel my eyes filling up with tears and a big lump in my throat. The feelings of sadness, loneliness, frustration, and anger probably will never go away. I feel like I should be over it by now, but I'm not. I understand how lonely and devastating the journey can be, and I know that my three year struggle is tiny in comparison to what other women go through.

I now spend my days coming up with a solution for all women. It's the ones who struggle that inspire me. In fact, I'm driven to make each and every woman appreciate her body, understand it, and be in control of it. This way, we can lower the number of women who experience difficulties with their fertility later in life. This way, we can offer some significant support to those who need it. This way, we will never feel lonely again.

It's hard to offer support through a blog post, so I'm determined to offer it some other way. I want you to know that you are not alone. There's millions of us going through similar situations. None of us have the exact same circumstances but we can all relate and we all understand. There are thousands of us around the world willing to help you fight the battles and win the war against infertility. So today, be sure to reach out and talk about your struggles. Telling your story may save someone else from falling into despair. You have absolutely nothing to hide. We are in this together, so let's help each other out!

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