04/05/2012 11:36 am ET Updated Mar 08, 2013

Why Wedding Night Sex May Be Anticlimactic

When it comes to the wedding night, your mom, 'maids and even your man may gift you sexy lingerie, toys and even words of X-rated wisdom, but is the wedding night really going to be the best night of sex you ever have? Probably not, and here's why:

It's Your First Time

Let's be honest the first time may be the most memorable sex you have, but since neither of you know what you're doing, it probably won't be the kind of sex you see in the movies. And I'm not talking about X-rated flicks. Remember that practice makes perfect, so get in a lot of practice while you're on your honeymoon.

You're Tired

The wedding ceremony and reception may last six short hours, but you got up at a dawn, didn't get a lot of sleep the night before and your meals were limited to a granola bar and a glass of champagne. It's okay to get to your hotel room and want to pass out. Your groom is probably exhausted too.

You Had One Too Many Signature Drinks

A wedding is a big party, and as the guests of honor, you are obliged to drink after every toast. As the cocktail hour and reception go on, it's possible that you drink more alcohol than you eat food. By the time you reach your wedding-night suite, the phrase hitting the sheets will probably mean passing out in your wedding dress.

The After-Party Just Won't End

The trend of throwing a post-wedding bash will allow a bride to wear her wedding dress for a few more hours, but when the party won't stop, there's no time for a night of passion. If your after-party goes into the wee hours of the next morning, you may not have time for sex and a shower before your post-wedding brunch. In the case of not having a full wedding night, you may opt for a quickie or make the next night your official wedding night. After all, the wedding didn't end until the following morning.

The Bottom Line

The myth of the wedding night may give you and your new hubby unrealistic expectations for your sex life as husband and wife. There will be plenty of opportunities in the coming years for a passionate night of love-making. Do what comes naturally, and if passing out feels better than making out, so be it. You have the rest of your lives to make up for it.