07/02/2013 12:48 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

7 Alternatives to Punishment, Option 1: You Are Not Alone


Part of my mission is to help parents raise happy kids and have a loving and successful family. Inside this blog, you'll discover the secrets to create a happier and more fulfilling relationship with your child.

Today's post contains the first effective alternative to punishment. Next week, I'll post the second one. This way, you can try out what you learn from this groundbreaking information. This allows you to see for yourself how well these parenting tips work.

Alternative to Punishment #1: Prevention

As the old saying goes, "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." That's why child-proofing your life is as important as baby-proofing your space. As a parent, I'm sure you've had moments when you foresaw a disaster that was about to occur. And if we take a moment to think about it, we can usually foresee other recipes for disasters. Taking proactive steps to prevent these unnecessary stresses in your life and the life of your child will make a big difference in reducing the number of upsets in your family.

There are simple ways to use prevention. If you know your child is going to get into the cookies, put them where he can't reach or find them. If giving your child a sweet dessert at night makes her stay up too late, then change your desserts habits. If you don't want your child getting onto your computer, then don't make your computer so accessible for them; shut the door to your home office, or put the computer out of sight. Planning ahead will save you SO MUCH time and energy. You'll avoid cleaning up unnecessary messes. And you'll avoid unnecessary upsets and needless stressing out.

Prevention is the perfect companion to cultivating non-reaction. (Cultivating non-reaction is covered in detail in my course, Busy Moms Guide to Awesome Parenting.) Because oftentimes, kids simply react to the environment you set up for them, you can set up the day to go smoothly, or be a chaotic mess.

If your children are similar in age, you'll want to child-proof your house so there are duplicates of the same toys. With duplicates, there is less room for fighting over things. There will be fewer ssues with sharing, because there will be two toys that are exactly the same. When you make sure each child has the same toy -- color, shape, type, everything -- then you'll be preventing a good portion of sibling rivalry.

Exercise in Prevention:

1. Tuck away anything that poses a possible hazard for your little one. Books, CD's, Aunt Ida's crystal vase, anything that you don't want them touching or getting into. (Remember, this will reduce the likelihood of you losing your cool tenfold.)

2. Next, do the same for anything that may make a mess... just put it out of reach.

Next week, I'll discuss alternative #2 in which you'll find out:

* How you can eliminate your parenting guilt in just a few simple steps (this only takes a second).

* The reason behind your toddler driving you crazy and how to prevent it.

* How a 2,000-year-old practice can improve your child's behavior and make a happier home.

* The biggest mistake you can make in disciplining your child.

You will be so much closer with your child when you start implementing these.

To find out more about this you can check out my e-course Busy Moms Guide to Awesome Parenting)