05/06/2013 04:01 pm ET Updated Jul 06, 2013

Apologize to the NRA?

Should we start this off by apologizing to the NRA? No way, we've thought about it enough. If we think there's not another potential for a Columbine, Aurora, Virginia Tech or Sandy Hook massacre, we'd be fooling ourselves. Just by the timing of Boston Marathon bombing, it seemed very possible that it could have been used as a scare tactic by those who are afraid of losing their "gun rights." That somehow this was a homegrown terrorist attack, to influence the senators who were sitting on the fence; to sway them back over to the other side, away from the side of decency and common sense, where 90% of Americans are expecting change. We can imagine that it changed some of their votes, or at least an excuse to change it.

Well as it turns out, it was homegrown terrorism, a naturalized citizen and a misguided loser, as their extended family called them. They both had everything to look forward to in our land of the free. They came from an oppressed country by way of our American asylum system; a couple of cowards who took all the opportunities that were available to them and decided that a terrorist attack was the way to thank us. They took that American Dream and turned it into a momentary American nightmare for all of us, but a hellish existence for the victims and their families, a lifetime of recovery.

One will be buried, the other tried for both their crimes. Their families full of shame, grief and disbelief, left wondering: where did it all go wrong? The rest of us will be demanding answers, what drove these losers to do this, what anger possessed them to do this unthinkable act and how could they assemble and deliver all the bomb making materials they had without someone seeing something and reporting it.

The state of Massachusetts and the rest of the country have come together once again as one big family and shared in their anguish, grief and pain. Law enforcement agencies did a masterful and magnificent job of piecing together all the bits of information from the public and hunting down the perpetrators. Unfortunately, when the cameras and attention are gone, we'll remember the horrible events yearly, resting assured that it happened to someone else and going back to our daily lives, while those affected by the senseless violence are left behind to deal with their tragedy and try to assimilate back into society with the burden of grief for the rest of their lives.

There can't be a person in this country that doesn't feel for these victims, their families and also those affected by the horrific explosion in Texas. The victims and families of gun violence know all too well of their long journeys to recovery, physically, mentally and spiritually -- the agony that just will not go away. Why won't we do something to limit these attacks on fellow Americans?

We believe that, as a society, we really need to look into the mirror; that we are partially to blame. We have developed a mentality that puts us against them. We can't remember a time when we have been more fractured. It's the Republicans against the Democrats; Conservative against the Liberal; Religious against the Atheist; the right against the left; the list goes on and on, we have drawn so many lines in the sand and so deep that I can just imagine the United States of America looking like shredded wheat from outer space. We will never be overrun by a foreign country but we have the potential to destroy ourselves from the inside out.

My uncle, my best friend, a wise man who lived a long life but way too short for those he left behind. When our son was murdered our lives stopped, after Oom Tony died our lives seemed to go in reverse. He and I used to walk the neighborhood together, talking about everything and nothing; I credit him with helping me maintain some form of sanity, along with three years of therapy of course. We would always conclude our walks with, "Now that we've solved the problems of the world, we can get back to our lives."

He tried to impress in me his belief that from the beginning of our existence, we humans, our leaders have always used distractions to keep us from seeing what was really happening around us that was benefiting those in power. Whether it was the Roman Olympics, the gladiators, or all the way to the sporting teams of today, the movies, television, video games, name your poison. We have taken our passions and turned them into hate, i.e. the rioting after your team wins a championship, to the brutal beating of a San Francisco Giant fan by a couple of LA Dodger fanatics. Just look at the violence in our own streets.

We've crossed the line of human decency. We have developed into a society of every woman/man for himself, except of course for any tragedy that pulls on our heart strings. Which shows me we really can come together in a time of need. Collectively we have the potential to influence positive change; let's put aside our differences and do something for all Americans. As written in Psalm 37-11: "But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace and prosperity." But in the meantime the aggressors are going to have one hell of a great time, at our expense.

Apologize to the NRA, I don't think so; they should apologize to us for filling us with fear and hate, just to enrich themselves and their personal agendas. There's no need to change the 2nd Amendment, we just need to debate what the intent of our brilliant forefathers was and come to an agreement we can all live with and not just the few.

What's that Honey? There's a game on? Sorry folks I got to go, I can't miss the game.

Jenny, Bert Heyman and Family