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09/29/2015 05:35 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Are You Stuck in Comparisonitis?

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We are all at different stages in our life and business. Yet we continue to catch ourselves comparing where we currently are with where someone else is or where we think we should be.

"Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle." Jon Acuff

This is a dangerous habit to get into. You are exactly where you need to be right now. Keep believing that and keep moving forward.

One of the easiest ways to make yourself feel awful is to start comparing yourself to others. Stop! It's a sure-fire way to diminish your self-confidence and self-worth. It serves no one.

We catch ourselves comparing our accomplishments or lack thereof with those who've made it.

We forget that these same people may have been in business for longer or this is their second business and they're taking everything that didn't work in their first business and tweaking this time around.

"I generally find that comparison is the fast track to unhappiness." Jack Canfield

My boys (8 & 10) and I ran in a 5k race recently. It was one of the best days of my life to run with them and see how strong they ran it.

Yes we trained and yes we were fit. But running among so many people, on a tight course can still throw you off.

You can easily catch yourself chasing someone who is in front of you, or hear someone coming up behind you and think, "I need to pick up my pace because I'm going to get passed at any moment."

The funny thing is, this is exactly how we can feel in business and in life. We berate ourselves by thinking, "Oh no, I should be where that person is, I need to hurry up and get there."

Trust me it can happen to all of us.

I was incredibly impressed with my boys. I had my oldest son set the pace. Then my 8 year old slotted in behind him and I brought up the rear. We ran like that for most of the race, as the course was quite narrow at times.

We saw many people come flying up beside us with their heavy, labored, breathing, and excessive pounding of the pavement, all within the first kilometer. I told my boys to keep their pace and not to worry about the runners around us. I said, "this is our race and we'll run it our way."

And what was remarkable was that we reeled in 95% of the people who went out too hard and too fast in the first kilometer. They hit a wall.

We saw loads that sprinted and then walked, sprinted, walked. We kept our pace, ran our race, stayed focused and beat them.

I talked to and coached my boys throughout the race. We even had a moment at the 3k mark where we listed everything we were thankful for. It included the gorgeous weather, seeing a butterfly, and how grateful we were to be able to run and enjoy this activity as a family.

My point in telling you this story is to set your pace in creating both your life and your business. Do what you need to do, keep at it, stop comparing yourself to others, it does no good.

Don't try to be where someone else is, just run your race and you will be at the finish line before you know it.

Do what you love and keep moving forward. You'll be blown away at how things start to fall into place. Trust me, you'll be tested and you'll hit road hazards along the way. Figure out a way to get around or over any blocks. Don't let them stop you from finishing your race.

Crossing the finish line holding my boys' hands was one of the highlights of my life.

I ask you, if you're still comparing where you are with where someone else is please do the following:

  • Review the past year or 3 years and acknowledge everything you've accomplished and how far you've come.
  • Be grateful for where you are. (gratitude is a major tool to implement into your daily life!)
  • Acknowledge your strengths, and see your true value. This is KEY to your success.
  • Recognize that everything is happening in its own perfect time.
  • Focus on achieving your goals, don't worry about the how, keep moving forward and stay focused. You'll reach your dreams at the right time. Trust the universe.
  • Stop beating yourself up and use that energy to uplift yourself or someone else.
  • Talk to someone who can help you gain some perspective and remind you of everything you've already accomplished! We all need a personal cheerleader who is there to support us and remind us just how far we've come.

"Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you." ~Unknown

I believe that you're unique and incredible and exactly where you're supposed to be! No one can do a better job than you.

I'd love to hear from you. Are you stuck in comparisonitis? Feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts below!

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