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03/21/2014 10:50 am ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Loving Your Enemies 2.0

I'm impressed with the collective restraint being shown by the gay community (and our friends) in the wake of Rev. Fred Phelps Sr.'s death -- a man who, according to CBS, "led outrageous and hate-filled protests that blamed almost everything, including the deaths of AIDS victims and U.S soldiers, on America's tolerance for gay people."

I'm humbled by the respect being shown to a man who was constitutionally incapable of showing the same.

It strikes me that these are the moments that cement change.

At times we are able to humiliate our worst enemy. Inevitably, his weak moments come and we are able to thrust in his side the spear of defeat. But this we must not do. Every word and deed must contribute to an understanding with the enemy and release those vast reservoirs of goodwill which have been blocked by impenetrable walls of hate.

-- Martin Luther King, Jr., Dexter Avenue Baptist Church; Montgomery, Alabama, Christmas Sermon, 1957.