08/30/2014 08:04 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

My MS Diagnosis: A Story About Living A Positive Life

Of the more than 2.3 million people worldwide who are diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, I am only one story. I am a wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, sister, friend, and woman living with an incurable and unpredictable disease. And even though I am only one person, my story can add great value by educating others about what it's like to live with an autoimmune disease. One story can make a difference.


As the Dalai Lama said, "Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects."

My story begins in 1981...

After my senior year of college I drove to Vermont with my two best friends. Their family owned a home in a wooded area outside of Bennington. After I arrived, it began to snow heavily, yet we remained undaunted by the weather and hopped into their car to go into town. As we crossed a narrow bridge, I was later told a car crashed head-on into us. My only memory was before the crash when I heard my friend shout, "Shit." When I opened my eyes I was in the midst of being lifted out of the car onto a stretcher. A plastic surgeon at the local hospital sewed my forehead with 16 stitches. I now have my very own scarlet letter.

After I was released, I noticed that I couldn't feel my feet.

After returning home to New Jersey, my parents admitted me to our local hospital where our family doctor administered a battery of tests. I told him my feet were numb. His response?

"Your shoes are too tight."

Fast forward to 1986. While rushing through the Port Authority bus terminal in Manhattan, clickety-clacking my way toward the gate in two-inch heels, I suddenly walked "wobbly." When I looked down I noticed one of my shoes had fallen off. After turning around to locate it, I spotted it on the floor a few feet behind me.

My shoe had slipped off and I hadn't felt a thing. Something was terribly wrong.

A CT scan, spinal tap, and MRI later, my neurologist informed me I had multiple sclerosis. Multiple what? Being a fan of the Jerry Lewis Labor Day Telethon, at first I thought I had muscular systrophy.

I gave up my apartment and my job, and moved back home. The difficulty of walking, the numbness in my right hand, and the overwhelming fatigue combined with the shock of this new diagnosis threw me for a loop. It hit my parents even harder. Now that I'm a parent, I can understand why.

My family surrounded me with love and support. My boyfriend ran past my mother and hugged me close while whispering, "Everything will be alright."

I married that boy.

I was diagnosed in the Dark Ages of MS when there were no approved medications, no Internet to turn to for reliable information, and not many doctors talking about complementary medicine or looking at the "whole" person.

Mentioning the word yoga to my first neurologist gave him a good chuckle.

My new journey had begun and I had two choices: Listen to my doctor's prescription for total rest, or fighting MS.

I chose the latter.

I began by devouring books about MS, attending support groups, calling MS organizations for information, and scheduling sessions with a physical therapist to learn how to safely walk despite the numbness I continue to live with today.

Although I live with the "best" type of MS ("relapsing-remitting" with flare-ups followed by partial or complete recovery) I'd be lying if I said it's been easy, because MS changed my life in many ways. It's sometimes called an invisible illness, and for me this has been true. I've had to leave parties early, cancel plans or not go out at all.

The repercussions of having an invisible illness is that at times I've been accused of being lazy or ill-mannered.

There were times when I had flare-ups and scheduled nursing visits at our home to hook me up to intravenous steroids during the hours my son was in school. Or the time I forced my husband and son to leave me behind for a vacation in Florida with our extended family. Or the time I fell flat on my face in the middle of a restaurant and people laughed at "the yuppie drunk."

But into each life a little rain must fall, and this is my shower.

I live with the unpredictability of a disease with no cure. So we built a home with raised countertops and grab bars in every bathroom. I nap daily because of MS fatigue, wear flat shoes and sneakers for better balance and mobility, and meditate and practice yoga to reduce stress and keep my muscles stretched.

At one point, a colleague questioned my cognitive functioning. (Some people with MS experience cognitive dysfunction, but I haven't.) She was ignorant and I became angry. But my anger led to an "aha!" moment of clarity, and it was at this crossroad that I began to write, while also advocating for people with disabilities. And so began my next venture, fulfilling a lifelong passion of paying it forward to others.

So, no, I'm not resting. I'm living a full life within the abilities I have. Having MS is not within my power, but what is within my power is refusing to let it gain the upper hand.

NOTE: If you're looking for current information about MS take a look at the fascinating 2014 study called "The MS in America Study" developed and funded by Health Union, LLC at Qualified participants answered 156 questions focusing on a broad range of topics that affect people with MS.

Read more from Cathy Chester on her blog, An Empowered Spirit.

Earlier on Huff/Post50:

The 5 Drugs Most Commonly Abused By Post-50s