09/16/2014 11:48 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Love Begets Love

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We all know it, but sometimes it's really hard to live by those words. Like when you're standing in the middle of a breakup, it doesn't need to be an ugly one, but still it's hard to look at the situation with love.

At least this is how I feel at the moment. It's hard to show love when all I feel is sadness and emptiness. When all I feel like is crying, shouting and throwing things so they break. Just like my heart is broken.

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But still, I know, that by the Law of Attraction, those feelings I send out, those vibrations I surround myself with -- they will eventually return my way -- or backfire if that's the case.

So I try. And the way that makes most sense, is by looking with gratitude and appreciation on what has been. How much nearly 20 years of knowing this person has granted me with happiness, joyfulness, thankfulness. How I've grown, and what I've learned. And what I have received.

This person has stood beside me, through thick and thin, for better or for worse, but all of a sudden, this is all gone. But the memories are not gone, and those are the ones I keep hanging on to.

Because I want to surround myself with positive vibrations. I want to surround myself with love.

Love begets love.

And in order for something to change for the better, or for the worse, I've got to start changing myself. I cannot change how others behave, how they react, how they feel. But I can change how I behave, how I react, how I feel.

I do that by finding my true self, who I want to be, and then start working towards that. It's not easy, because you've got to face the demons you possess (we all have them), but it's worth it.

It might not save this relationship, but it will make me a stronger person. It will teach me how I want things to be, and it will teach me what I need to do or sacrifice in order to become this person I want to become.

We are all living material, that means we change. We change from day to day, and the reason we change is because of the things we experience. And this teaches me that I'm able to make changes. Changes that I want to happen, not just those who just happens without me even noticing it.

But it's easier to make those unseen changes, those that comes with you going with the flow, not thinking much about how you present yourself, or how you interact, or what you do. It's harder when you actually have to track your progress, ask yourself some tough questions, really find your own voice.

In order to make others love you, you've got to love yourself. In order to make others appreciate you, you've got to appreciate yourself. Every change starts from within, why not start with adding some love for yourself. Love begets love.