02/12/2013 03:00 pm ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Valentine's Day Is Just Another Day

Valentine's Day is here! Being a matchmaker, I may get flack for saying this, but I am here to tell you that Valentine's Day is just another day!

My phone has been ringing off the hook with single people frantically looking for a date for Valentine's Day. My advice to my single friends and clients is to relax. Yes, it is a good thing to put yourself out there and cast the broadest dating net possible so that you can find as many eligible singles as you can, but there is no reason to rush it. Too many times I have witnessed people set unrealistic goals such as Valentine's Day or a looming birthday to find that special someone only to end up depressed when it doesn't happen. Don't rush love. Remember the old saying "Love comes when you least expect it." When you run around desperately looking for a date, you can end up scraping the bottom of the barrel and end up asking yourself "What was I thinking?"

If you are NOT in a relationship do something special for yourself this Valentine's Day. Go out and buy a new outfit or even go to a salon and get a new look! When you look your best, you feel your best, so go ahead and spoil yourself! After you have spoiled yourself, simply type "Single Events On Valentine's Day" into your web browser and see what is out there! For example, here in NYC, the Vander Bar at the Roosevelt Hotel throws an Anti-Valentine's Protest on February 14th to indulge in an anti-love menu including "Love Bites" appetizers and "Love Stinks, Let's Drink" shots. You can find lots of single events full of eligible singles wherever you are. Grab some single friends and get out there OR drop in by yourself. You will be surprised to find that there are single people out there just like you looking to meet and have fun.

If you are in a relationship, enjoy your Valentine's Day and cherish your special someone. If you are NOT in a relationship, please don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. You are worthy of happiness, you just have to find it within yourself and get out there and have some fun! I always say the same thing that RuPaul says "If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" And it's the truth. I always tell my clients that if you are not happy, simply finding someone to make you happy is not going to work. You MUST find happiness in yourself first and THEN find someone to share in your happiness. For more insights into finding happiness in your life, pick up my new book Love Made Easy With CharlieTheMatchmaker. No more excuses! Whatever it takes to find some happiness in your life, do it!

Whether you are single or in a relationship, make this Valentine's Day a memorable one.

Your Favorite Neighborhood Matchmaker,