THE BLOG
07/03/2010 05:12 am ET Updated Nov 17, 2011

Do We Value Marriage Anymore?

Every day you read about somebody else getting divorced. Forget about just the high profile people, because the high profile people are just the ones who get publicized. What about all the rest?

What about all the failed marriages out there? Do we value marriage anymore?

Is marriage an institution that is dying? Can we actually commit to one another "until death do us part" anymore, or has marriage become a commitment 'until the times are tough and I can't take it anymore?'

It seems like we just don't value marriage. We get married for all the wrong reasons. To me, marriage is about finding the person you love, adore, honor, cherish, and to whom you are totally committed.

To me, nothing is greater than to come home every single day to your best friend. Nothing is greater than to able to look into someone's eyes, and know what each other is thinking without even saying a word. Sex is so much better with somebody that you love, honor and respect than it is with someone who is a casual fling.

It seems, though, like we've become a society of people who are just looking for immediate gratification. Look how we've become in terms of technology. Technology is so advanced now that we're carrying around phones that are basically mini computers.

Five or ten years ago, there was a phone called the Motorola Razor which everybody thought was so cool, so progressive and so hip. It was this thin little phone and everybody got it. They thought they were so technologically advanced.

You look at a Razor now, and you look at it and think to yourself, I would never carry that phone around. How can I take pictures, send video, text, or write email?

Marriage to me is something that you need to think about long and hard before you enter into it. I'm 47 years old. I'm getting married to a woman I think is the most beautiful woman in the entire world. We're four months away from having a baby girl. She's someone I could talk to all day long.

It took me a long time to find the person with whom I want to spend the rest of my life. It seems, however, like most people are not patient anymore.

It seems like when we're looking to meet someone to marry, that we tend to settle for whoever comes along because we don't feel like we deserve anything better. So we get into marriages that were doomed to fail with someone with whom we were never truly connected.

We've lost our patience. If you're on a hunt to find somebody to marry, you need to take your time -- even if it takes five, six or ten years -- and find someone you love and adore.

People settling for whoever happens to come along is the reason why so many marriages end up failing. People are marrying people they never should have been with in the first place. When you marry out of fear -- fear that you may never meet anyone else -- you are putting yourself on a sure path to divorce.

Marriage to me is something very sacred. It is something you want to take your time to find the person with whom you want to enter into it. You need to find the person with whom things will work out in the long run.

Everybody deserves true love, but it starts with loving yourself first. It starts with understanding yourself, and it starts with going after what you want and not compromising. It's time all of us look deeper into our lives, our marriages and ourselves. Love is one of the greatest feelings you can experience, but true love is something that takes time.