12/04/2014 04:17 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Stop Lying to Yourself!

OK. Today, I want to talk to you about lying to yourself. We all do it. And a lot of us lie to ourselves because without realizing it, we can't face the truth, and it's easier to craft a story, to craft a lie.


You say, "You know what, I'm happy with my job. You know, I should be content. I can pay the bills, and you know, my kids don't have to worry about eating, so, you know, I like my job."

No! Don't lie to yourself. If your relationship isn't good, then focus on it, and, and, and be honest, "It's horrible. I go home and I'm sad. I go home. It's not working. I go home and I want to run, but I just stay there for the kids, or I stay there because of money..."

No! If it's that bad, stop lying to yourself. Let the pain sink in, because if you get disturbed, you will take action. But if it's a lie just to get through the day, then stop lying to yourself. Look in the mirror and say, "I don't like who I am... I have to make a difference." Read a book. Go online. Get help.

So my challenge for this week is to find out where you're lying to yourself. I just know that so many of us create lies, because we can't face the truth, and it's just good enough to get by. If you want to stay status quo, if you want to be OK, if you want to just get through life, then keep lying to yourself.

But if you want to actually make a change you have to find the lies, and go, "What are you doing? No, that's a lie. The truth is you're unhappy. It's disturbing. Find an answer."

If you tell yourself the truth then you can find an answer.

Have an amazing week. I'm Dean Graziosi.