In light of the recent sentencing of US journalists Laura Ling and Euna Lee in North Korea, and the ongoing stalemate in US and North Korean relations, it is vital that we all hold in our hearts and minds the space within which a resolution can be reached so these women can be quickly returned to their families and loved ones. The nine principles of conflict resolution are a good framework upon which we can create that supportive space of consciousness. Let's keep these points in mind as we begin a conversation with the North Korean government for their return. I hope and pray they will be released soon.
1. Speak and treat each party with respect.
2. Understand there is perception of injustice on both sides.
3. Be willing to forgive and ask for forgiveness.
4. Refrain from belligerence.
5. Try to understand each other's value systems.
6. Don't try prove the other side wrong or make them lose face.
7. Refrain from ideological discussions.
8. Recognize that fear is a factor for both sides.
9. Use the principles emotional intelligence to access their feelings as well as those of the other party.