05/14/2014 05:10 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

What I Realized When I Finally Decided to Sign Up for Food Stamps

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I have previously written how three days before my 60th birthday I came to a
decision that I once considered unthinkable. On that day, I gathered up my
financial information, took my book, entered the Social Services
office in Waterbury, Connecticut, and asked if there was someone I could see
to obtain some assistance. I pretty much already knew for what I was
eligible, and had known for the past year, but since I was self employed I
needed help to complete the forms that are designed for those on an hourly
pay. I needed to talk to someone.

The receptionist behind the glass partition took my name and social
security number and directed me to the waiting room informing me someone would
call me. I had gotten there at around 11:30 a.m. and took the last of the
available seats, opened my book and steeled myself for a long wait.

There were over 50 people in the waiting room. Mothers with children some
with infants, middle age couples, young men and woman by themselves, some in
work clothing -- guard uniforms, medical scrubs, fast food outfits, business
suit or tie. This was not what I had expected.

The Social Services department is directly on a bus route and not located in
the best part of town. I am ashamed to say that I expected to find the
unemployable or the lazy or the addicted or handicapped. I expected
something different, something else. I expected to be surrounded by... by

I pride myself on not succumbing to prejudice so it was with a wash of
embarrassment and shame that I realized that "them" were in fact me. The
people in that waiting room could have been my neighbors or co-workers.
They were people I interact with every day. One of them I recognized as an
ex-employee of one of my clients who is now out of business. These were not
the dregs of society looking for a handout. These were working people, just
like me, who just needed some help. This was a shocking reminder of what
has become of the middle class.

I was the last person to sign in so as names were called, I did a mental
calculation and knew I would be there for several hours. Three hours later
a lightly graying woman, still younger than I, with a light but
professional demeanor, showed me to a clean, well organized cubical and asked
how she could help. She made conversation easy as I reluctantly explained
my situation, answered her questions and presented my documentation. The
forms were completed, printed and signed and the lengthiest part of the
process was making copies of my documents. Because as anyone who has worked
in an office knows, there is never enough paper in the copy machine and the
refills are always kept on the other side of the building. An observation
we both joked about.

She explained what I qualified for. That I was eligible for $178 a month
in SNAP benefits, the maximum for a single household, and that once I
supplied a bank statement of my monthly mortgage amount she could process
the paperwork. It was the one document I neglected to bring. She then told
me that if there were funds still available I would most likely qualify for
the state energy assistance program but would need to apply at a different
state office. (The funds had already been used.) She also offered me a
flyer, appropriately titled "Help for People in Need," that listed contact
information about 17 other programs and organizations from the United Way to
school breakfasts to food banks.

The following day I dropped off the mortgage information and she informed me
that I would receive an EBT card in the mail within 10 working days. I
thanked her for her help. She smiled almost sadly and told me that she was now
seeing a lot of people like me. That it was tough out
there since the crash.

Even with two holidays in between, by the end of the first week in January
I received the card with instructions on how to activate it online or at a
bank location -- a simple matter of entering a code and selecting a PIN.

I sat there staring at this gray plastic card with mixed emotions. On the
one hand it was a constant reminder of my situation and on the other a
relief that I would no longer need to decide whether to purchase food or

It has been nearly four months now that I have been using my EBT card to
purchase food. Because regardless of what you may hear you can ONLY
purchase food with it. No toilet paper, no toothpaste, no cleaning or paper
supplies or laundry detergent: Just food. And while I could purchase filet
mignon or Alaskan crab legs or truffles I would have to do without something
else to make the money last for the month.

What it has let me do is purchase better quality foods. Low sodium canned
products, more fruit and fresh vegetables and slightly better cuts of meat
instead of just the cheapest. I still need to be frugal but I no longer
need to defer a food purchase in order to fill my gas tank, pay my phone
bill or buy medication.

There is still a lot of stress from my financial situation but I never
realized how much of it or how insidious it was to maintain the balancing
act of paying bills or buying food. I have always been good at budgeting,
which is why I knew I was in trouble a year before I sought help, but there
is no robbing Peter to pay Paul with this. My food budget is $178 a
month and while my pantry is not fully stocked I have enough to eat. And
that's big; both physically and mentally.

They say you can't make good decisions if you're hungry. While I never got
to that, making decisions when you are worried about going hungry is just as
bad. Knowing that an essential need has been met by having the SNAP
benefits has allowed me to better concentrate on re-building my business, to
make better decisions and not constantly worry. The relief from that alone
cannot be overstated.

This is a different country from the time of my parents. There were no
safety nets for them. I remember the look on my mother's face when the
cupboards were bare and there were seven of us to feed. I saw it in the
mirror the day before I signed up for assistance. Back then, 60-year-old
men devastated by the economy had no chance of starting over. While I may
or may not succeed I at least have a fighting chance thanks to this benefit.
This is what it looks like to be the working poor.


Dennis' story is part of a Huffington Post series profiling Americans who work hard and yet still struggle to make ends meet. Learn more about other individuals' experiences here.

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