01/02/2013 04:12 pm ET Updated Mar 04, 2013

Success Is the Progeny of Failure

What a year it has been! As I reflect on what transpired, I see a lot of failures I have encountered along the way. But I am both humbled and instructed by these failings and see them as a key ingredient in the success I anticipate in the coming year. The focus of this blog is to encourage each one of us to look at our failings this past year as the most important gift we are taking into the next year. Failure is instructive and cardinal in making your success come to fruition. How is the question?

So in my last blog "A passion driven life with a purpose," I ended with an important quote: "We all have dreams but some people live out their dreams while others dream out their lives." This quote says it all doesn't it? When you live out your dream it means you put all your fears of failing to the side and you rather employ all your failures as a learning laboratory to get you to the goals and purpose in your life. To work through your fears of failing you must have a passion and love for your purpose in life so that failure really becomes the needed companion of truth and perfection. Why, because failure tells you a lot about your assumptions and inabilities, but guess what, I have learnt to love failure in pursuit of purpose.

In order to have impact and success in your purpose you need failure. So what is failure?
The term failure has a bad rap in almost every culture globally. For most people failure represents incompetency and denotes a negative. For a culture (in the West especially) broadly consumed with serious competition, failure isn't tolerated because it implies diminished talent, deficiency or an inability to overcome ones weaknesses. Webster dictionary simply defines failure as falling short. While this is true, I find that failure is a temporary infirmity in which you fall short on your way to falling "long." There is a purpose in failure. It is [a] step in success. Failure helps shift your assumed paradigms to unquestionable reality. Sometimes failure helps speed up success. This purpose is more important than the actual act of failing.

Therefore I define failure as the humbling art and process of perfecting your God-given talents and skills towards a destination: one of birthing successful excellence hereafter success is the progeny of failure!

Without failure, success is untested and tends to crumble in the face of extraordinary odds, trials and tribulations. A focused individual who encounters failure as they travel into the joyous arms of success, uses failure to develop the important traits of determination, gumption, a continued interest in learning to improve, a sharpened justification of purpose and most importantly, failure does help us come up with true solutions that in so many instances can save lives.

Sometimes when you are pursuing your purpose, failure becomes an inescapable monument that stands erected to remind you of how tough the journey to success is.

But not all failure is good for you; in the next blog we will discuss this aspect of failure.

In the meantime, in the coming year pay attention to the power of failure for it has the capacity to inform the future of your success.

Here are some encouraging quotes from successful people who have over time failed their way to success.

"I failed my way to success."
-Thomas Edison

"Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt."
-William Shakespeare

"Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success."
-Napoleon Hill

Please share with me your thoughts on this topic and let me know how you define failure. If you are comfortable sharing a failing you have had in life that eventually led to success, please do share that as well. Happy New Year!