11/21/2012 12:29 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

My Recipe for a 'Chill' and Happy Thanksgiving

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, and then the holidays officially begin! The grocery stores have sold out of turkeys, urban pumpkin patches have been converted into Christmas tree lots and everyone is talking about their plans for December. For some of us, it's not enough to just have Thanksgiving. You may believe you must have THE BEST THANKSGIVING EVER! You might have even spent days just focused on preparing your turkey.

So, what else is the woman in perimenopause or menopause focused on this Thanksgiving?

  • She is focused on how she is going to remember to take the turkey out of the oven.
  • She is focused on her stomach and her hips -- wondering if she's going to fit into last year's holiday clothes.
  • She is focused on how to keep her unpredictable emotions under control when the inevitable family/holiday stress kicks in.
  • She is focused on getting a good night's sleep -- because she has forgotten what that is!

In honor of the sisterhood, in recognition of all that we contribute to our families and to our communities, and in the spirit of this day of thankfulness, I'll share with you my recipe for a Happy Thanksgiving:


  • 2 bushels of friends and family
  • One 2-pound bag of gratitude
  • 1/2 cup of "It's ok not to be perfect."
  • 3 sticks of "Can you help me plan, cook and clean up?"
  • 4 large cups of peeled, cored, and chopped forgiveness
  • 1 teaspoon patience

Do not preheat the oven -- you are already too hot.

In a large bowl combine ingredients:

  • Do not blend into a sauce, as you are saucy enough as it is.
  • Gently stir the above ingredients together. Never beat anything -- especially yourself. Stop before ingredients are completely combined. Let the mixture have texture -- imperfect but with some personality.
  • Take one deep breath in and release. Remember that reaching out is IN. Suffering in silence is OUT.
  • Fold in lots of love.
  • Chill! :>)

Now that's a recipe for a truly BEST THANKSGIVING EVER. May it be a low stress, low calorie treat for the whole family!

From my home to yours, may you and your family have a Happy Thanksgiving!

About Ellen Dolgen

Ellen Dolgen is a Health and Wellness Advocate, Menopause Awareness Expert, Author, Speaker and health blogger.

Ellen is the author of Shmirshky: The Pursuit of Hormone Happiness -- a cut-to-the-chase book on perimenopause and menopause that's filled with crucial information, helpful guides and hilarious and heartfelt stories. Known for her humor, compassion and sassy personality, Ellen has appeared on numerous television and radio broadcasts, including: The Rachael Ray Show, The Doctors, Oprah Radio, Playboy Radio, "Tell Me More" on NPR, Doctor Radio and dozens of other regional and national media outlets. Ellen is a frequent guest on the popular radio show, "Broadminded," on Sirius XM Radio (Stars XM 107) and is a regular contributor on Huff/Post 50 along with blogging for many leading women's health sites. Ellen has dedicated herself to women's wellness through a wide breadth of activities ranging from being a founding board member of the UCSD Student Wellness Center, working with pharmaceutical companies in helping them to effectively address women's health needs, serving on hospital advisory boards and advocating for cardiovascular health.

Ellen's motto is: Reaching out is IN! Suffering in silence is OUT!

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