11/03/2014 04:18 pm ET Updated Jan 03, 2015

Are We Abnormally Normal?

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Over the four decades that I have been alive, I have often heard the term "normal" or "abnormal" being used. These terms were always used by people who thought they were "normal" yet the others around them were some how not in the category of being normal. It's a thought that has bothered me a lot over the years.

What does being "normal" mean? According to it is conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.

During my daily life when I look around and see people, I don't find two people that are alike. We have different thoughts, emotions and stories, physically we are different in so many ways. Even twins that are so alike physically are so different mentally and emotionally. Then how can we say someone is an ordinary normal person? And others aren't?

Yes, if we think about it, inside every human being lies good and bad, we are created with an even dose of both. Yet as we grow up the definite lines between them start to mix together and becomes a smudged line. The boundary between the two seems to just disappear and it is easier for us to justify doing wrong things. We judge others according to their race and gender, we accuse people of things because of our own bias', we call them "abnormal" because they are different from us.

Even in school, it seemed like kids that fit a certain mold -- they are good students and behave well are more liked by teachers. Atleast that's how I felt and I always thought of myself as the "invisible square," as I was always" different." But now as an adult I know we are all different trying to be the same.

How can anyone of us just be "normal" or like the other person around us when we all emotionally react to things differently, we love differently, we see things differently.

In my opinion, being normal is a relative term. What I feel and think is so normal for me might be so abnormal or crazy for someone else. I love to crack up at ridiculous jokes, yet some people take offense to that. So how can I say I am more normal then the person sitting next to me? or how can I judge someone and say how my opinion is the correct one and call the person "crazy" or even a "retard" because his opinion is different from mine, I don't think we can do that. I feel like our society has become judgmental, we believe we know more than others.

What I am trying to say is that when we were created to be different, why do we even try to fit in a certain mold? We think being the same is cool yet I think the beauty of the world lies in us all being "abnormal"!