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10/13/2015 10:43 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Freedom Is Not What We Think It Is

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As most of us might have experienced, I grew up within the chains of culture, and grew up needing to conform to expectations of others and needing to do what I was told to do.

This is not about chastising our culture and our upbringing -- in fact, I know some people are happy to stay status quo and that is fine too.

Hence the questions I always ask people are,

"What serves you?"

By "what," I mean, thoughts, beliefs, ideas, current opinions, expectations and suggestions of yours and others.

"Where are you going in Life?"

"What do you want to be, do, have."

"Does what you have always known, your beliefs, and your normal way of doing things serving you to get you to where you want to go?"

"Are you happy with where you are in Life?"

"If not, what can you choose to do now to change it?"

These questions and the answers you derive at are a good gauge to your satisfaction of your status quo in Life, and you are the only one who can make the decision of what that is.

I am only here as a guide to share with you what I went through and what I have personally gained.

So here is why the subject of "Freedom" and going for our dreams, passions and our desires, and following our heart really means a lot to me.

I never knew I didn't understand freedom, until I finally got it, until I finally understood what it truly is for myself, and that, my friends, is real Liberation.

Freedom doesn't come via someone in your life, not that spouse, that partner, or that best friend you have always had. In fact within each relationship itself, there in itself comes with its own complications.

This Freedom I am talking about is something else entirely.

It is about that space and the "knowing" that you allow yourself -- where you acknowledge Who You Are, what you want to be, do and have in Life.

It is about acceptance of who You really are.

When that acceptance comes about, everyone else could have different opinions about how you should live your Life and how you should behave, but you can let that go with peace and still love them exactly the way they are and do what you know is right for you, because you have come to inner peace.

In other words, Freedom within.

And once you have that, no one has control over You, except You.

I can attest to that when I have been waking up each day with that feeling of wanting to Live More, Be More, and Do more, I realized the feeling of joyous liberation and "free-ness" despite certain parts of my life not working as how I want it to be.

I realized it's also not about only being whatever you want when you finally got it. But it's also about being and doing what you can now to get yourself there.

Life is an ongoing journey. The times we feel stagnant, unfulfilled are those times when we don't do what we are supposed to do, when we don't fulfill that inner calling to do what we are meant to do, when we expect someone to sort out our Life for us, or when we wait for someone to complete our lack, neediness and deficiencies.

No, Life is about continuously learning, expanding, developing and fulfilling that wonderful soul which You are.

So don't wait until you get that lover, or until you get your promotion or paycheck, or until someone acknowledges you or praise you, or until your partner got his/her own promotion, or until your kids grow up.

Own your inner freedom, Now.