I knew wearing make-up would be a risk because of close-minded individuals, but never from my own community. I always thought it would be people that didn’t agree with my sexuality that would judge me and call me names, and that didn’t bother me, but what did bother me was knowing it came from people with the same sexuality as me just because they like masculine things and I like feminine things.
As grown adults, it baffles me that there is so much hatred in the gay community, gay men hating on fem boys, hating on transgender individuals. It is sickening that someone who preaches equality is devaluing another human being, your equality doesn’t just apply to you.
Growing up, I never got to wear make-up because I was scared of what my family and friends might think, then when I finally got the courage I had to think about how the world would react; would they judge me? would they praise me? would I lose everyone? It was never about what they’d say but more about my own safety, people can get violent when they’re exposed to things they are not educated about.
I believe I can express myself through the make-up I wear, it is a pigment, it is colour and it doesn’t have a gender attached to it so why associate it with one gender? Being gay isn’t something you can put in one bracket.
Being at gay pride and being called “too gay” by a masculine, gay male ― it makes you feel degraded and devalued. We are all fighting for our rights and when gay men are insulting other men for wearing make-up or wearing clothes which don’t fit their idea of a society norm it can really bring you down and frighten you. I’ve had people turn on me because I’ve started wearing make-up. Gay Pride events should be a place where every one can feel safe, a place for them to be who they are without any issues but I see so much hatred from homosexual men because it’s “not them” and they don’t want to “be associated” with that lifestyle ― but if gay pride didn’t exist your life would still be threatened, seen as disgusting and illegal by the majority of the world no matter how “straight” you present yourself as.
Would our community better without the hate and degrading of each other? Yes.
I’m not hating on masculine homosexual men because you have every right to be masculine as long as that’s who you are and that’s what makes you happy because isn’t that what we’re fighting for? freedom and happiness? If you don’t like the fact a fem gay wears make-up, give them a chance at showing their personality first. They could be the sweetest person with a heart of gold. People judge too quick.
I believe it comes from childhood, I could be wrong, and honestly, I probably am, but only recently have gender roles been challenged so harshly, so these gay men have been brought up probably hearing stuff like “If you’re gonna be gay, be gay but don’t act like a lady about it,” and we all know that anything feminine = weak, soft and disgusting to society which is also why feminism benefits both men and women and everything in-between (which is a completely different post).
I would never degrade someone for liking football, beer or the gym or anything that comes along with him. I would judge him on his personality and how he acts towards me. We have enough hate in this world ― why create more where it isn’t needed? As a gay male myself, I know how it feels to be belittled and to be shot to the ground because “I should like women and not men” and it seems like the gay community can be just as hateful sometimes; we’ve came so far and some people are doing nothing but holding us back, we’re meant to build each other up to create a brighter future
You can have preferences, people you’re attracted to - I do and a lot of people do and that is fine but it is not fine to shame people because of their interests or because they don’t fit into your idea of masculinity, you don’t even have to be friends with them if they’re too loud, obnoxious for you but you certainly don’t have the right to shame them for how they dress or present themselves - their personality is the issue, not the make-up they put on their face or the colour of their hair.
I’ve had people turn on me because I’ve started wearing make-up. Am I better without them? Yes.
I would never degrade someone for liking football, beer or the gym or anything that comes along with him. I would judge him on his personality and how he acts towards me. We have enough hate in this world ― why create more where it isn’t needed? As a gay male myself, I know how it feels to be belittled and to be shot to the ground because “I should like women and not men” and it seems like the gay community can be just as hateful sometimes.
We’ve came so far and some people are doing nothing but holding us back and with so many people trying to bring us down, we should be raising each other up.
What are your thoughts on this? Tweet me ― I’m always up for a discussion