After his wife died during childbirth, Jared Buhanan-Decker found recordings of her singing that she left behind, but couldn’t access them. That’s when complete strangers stepped up and helped give his son the chance to hear his mom sing him a lullaby.
On July 28, Jared wrote on Reddit that he had an “odd request.” In his post, he wrote that his wife, Sharry Buhanan-Decker, had died giving birth to their first baby, James (also known as JJ).
Sharry shared her love for music by recording herself singing and playing guitar. She had only posted a handful of the videos to YouTube. After Sharry’s death, Jared found more music she had left behind in a file format he couldn’t access, so he asked Reddit for assistance.
“I just want to be able to hear her voice again,” he wrote in the post.
Within hours, complete strangers offered their help. Jared uploaded the files to a Google Drive folder, shared them through the site and then received the converted files he could access from other Reddit users.
“People can be very kind in the face of tragedy,” Jared said.
And now JJ can listen to his mother sing to him.
Watch Sharry singing and sharing her love for music below.
Jared wrote on his blog, which Sharry started and he is continuing, that doctors think his wife might have died from an amniotic fluid embolism. Because of the traumatic birth (his son was delivered via emergency C-section), doctors thought JJ might have medical issues going forward.
“At first JJ’s ‘worst case scenarios’ included blindness, never walking, never feeding himself, cerebral palsy, severe learning disabilities and [overall] short life,” Jared told HuffPost.
But after a stay in the NICU, JJ went home and the now 4-month-old is defying the odds. Jared has been sharing updates on both his son and himself on the blog. In a recent post, he shared Sharry’s bucket list, which he and JJ plan to complete.
“She really sincerely and intensely cared about things. She longed to make a difference in the world for the better,” Jared said. “She was passionate and emotional for good and for bad, and I miss her more than I could ever imagine.”