This post is part of Sophie Keller's "How Happy Is" series on The Huffington Post. This week, Sophie offers marriage advice:
When you're in a disagreement, ask yourself if it's more important to be "right" or to make your relationship work. If it's more important to be "right," then don't be surprised if your relationship doesn't work in the long run. If it's more important to make your relationship work, be prepared to let things go and "lose the battle in order to win the war."
If you look at young children and how they play with each other, their priority is to be happy, not to be right. My son, Judah, can have a scrap with another child and even if the other child is wrong, Judah will let it go quickly because for him it is much more important to be happy than to hold a grudge.
Unfortunately, we often lose sight of this perspective as we get older, but next time you're tempted to hold a grudge because you think "you're right," take a lesson out of a child's book and choose to be happy over your need to be right all the time.
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