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10/28/2016 12:14 pm ET

Mom Posts C-Section Scar Photo To Show It's Not 'The Easy Way Out'

“Whether you believe this or not, I gave birth to my baby.”

A striking postpartum photo is reminding viewers that cesarean sections are not “the easy way out.”

U.K. mom of two Jodie Shaw posted a photo of her C-section scar, taken two days after giving birth to her second child, on Instagram. 

UPDATED POST http://birthwithoutfearblog.com/2016/10/19/proud-of-my-scar/ A new day and a what seems to be another new post from someone insinuating that giving birth by caesarian means that you didn't give birth. Can we please just stop! I obviously can't change people's views but I've decided to post this picture to see if it may make people understand that despite what our birth plans might say. Sometimes we don't get a choice. I didn't get a choice. I had a fibroid the size of a melon sat on my cervix and a low lying placenta which meant that Ive been left with no ordinary csection scar. But whether you believe this or not. I gave birth to my baby. . So next time you judge someone for not doing what you consider to be "giving birth" please take a minute to think about why they may have had to deliver that way. Think about the fact that given the choice they probably wouldn't of chosen this but had no choice. Why would you choose a major operation and 6 weeks of recovery? Anyway. This scar saved me from losing a life threatening amount of blood and meant my baby was brought into this world as she should be. Healthy and unharmed, as was I. (Pic taken 2 days postpartum. Now 18weeks postpartum) #proudofmyscar #csection #csectionscar #csectionbaby #postpartum #postpartumrecovery #classicalsection #postpregnancy #cesarean #cesareanbirth #igavebirth #beproud #markoflove #ididnthaveachoice #dontjudgeme #mothersshouldsupporteachother #healthy #happy #changeyourmindset #mums #moms #pregnancypost #mumblog

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“A new day and a what seems to be another new post from someone insinuating that giving birth by caesarian means that you didn’t give birth,” Shaw wrote in the caption. “Can we please just stop!”

The mom said she decided to post the photo to “make people understand that despite what our birth plans might say, sometimes we don’t get a choice.”

Shaw, who has a 6-year-old son and 5-month-old daughter explained that she had to give birth to her baby girl via C-section due to a “fibroid the size of a melon” on her cervix and her low-lying placenta. The operation left her with a particularly striking scar.

“Whether you believe this or not, I gave birth to my baby,” the mom wrote. “So next time you judge someone for not doing what you consider to be ‘giving birth’ please take a minute to think about why they may have had to deliver that way.”

Shaw, who lives in Northampton, concluded her caption with a dose of perspective. “This scar saved me from losing a life threatening amount of blood and meant my baby was brought into this world as she should be. Healthy and unharmed, as was I.”

The mom’s Instagram post reached nearly 400 likes on her account and over 800 likes on the 4th Trimester Bodies Project account. Birth Without Fear also posted her photo on Facebook, where it reached over 6,000 likes. Shaw wrote a follow-up post about the photo on the Birth Without Fear blog.

In the blog post and an interview with The Huffington Post, Shaw explained specifically why her scar is so different from most C-section scars today.

“Because of the positioning of the fibroid and my placenta being low lying, I was told that they wouldn’t be able to reopen the existing scar and that I would have to have what is known as a classical cesarean section,” she said, noting that the procedure is somewhat rare today and involves a long vertical incision. 

Shaw said she took the photo back in May while recovering from the operation in the hospital. “The nurses had come to change the dressing, and when they left the room I sneakily took the picture just so I could see what it looked liked,” she said. “To be honest, I was horrified.”

The mom never planned to share the photo, but she was inspired to post it after noticing many references to C-sections that suggested the procedure is “not birth.” Shaw said that although she is not personally affected by this view, she knows it hurts many other women. 

“I’ve met lots of mums who almost feel like they failed because they had to have a cesarean, and it’s just awful that we should feel that way,” she explained, adding that there are many misconceptions about C-sections. Namely, that it is “the easy option” or for women who think they are “too posh to push.”

“I’ve met lots of mums who almost feel like they failed because they had to have a cesarean, and it’s just
Jodie Shaw
“I’ve met lots of mums who almost feel like they failed because they had to have a cesarean, and it’s just awful that we should feel that way,” Shaw told HuffPost.

Shaw said she’s been overwhelmed by the positive, supportive responses from fellow C-section mamas. “People have made me feel proud, which isn’t something I’ve necessarily felt before,” she said, adding, “I love my scar.”

Shaw told HuffPost she hopes her story can educate people about different types of births, particularly classical cesarean sections, which are rather “unheard of” today. 

Though her specific experience isn’t the norm and her scar has faded to a pink line, she ultimately wants people who see her post to realize that a C-section is not “the easier option” and is still a method of birth. 

Said Shaw, “A birth is a birth. It doesn’t matter how you delivered your baby as long as everyone is OK.”

Amen.

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