Mistake #1: Being boring or negative in your profile
How many times have you wanted to take a snooze reading a man's profile that continually says I like this and I like that. A lot of women's profiles start this way as well.
Now think of a party where you meet someone new and they start in with the '"I do this" monologue without stopping to take a breath. Boring, right?
Your eyes start looking around the room trying to signal anyone who catches your eye to come and rescue you!
Online, you have less than 10 seconds to get a man's attention before he moves on. Make your words count!
Never complain about your ex or anything else in your world that's not right. A man sees you as a Drama Queen and moves on. Instead be fun and be flirty and do it in a way that intrigues him.
Mistake # 2: Typos and grammar issues
There's nothing worse than reading a profile that sounds like a middle school kid wrote it. Write your profile in Microsoft Word so that it highlights any grammar or spelling mistakes. Then cut and paste the paragraphs you've written into your profile online.
You can be a genius but if you have typos and grammar mistakes going on in your profile, men are turned off and quickly move on to someone else's profile.
Mistake #3: Making this romantic faux pas in your profile
When I first started dating in my 40s I was clueless! I wrote stuff like I want to make love on a beach. What did I know? To me that was romantic.
To men reading it, it was like they'd hit the jackpot. They thought I wanted to find a man to have sex with and they were willing to take one for the team and step up to make that happen.
I wanted a relationship, but that little sentence didn't draw in men who wanted a relationship as well. Here's a tip: Leave anything that has a reference to sex out of your profile and your picture. It gives men the wrong impression and encourages those you probably aren't interested in to write to you.
Mistake #4: Writing cliche sentences
My male friends love showing me profiles and across the board they all say the same thing about these 3 sentences...they see them in every women's profile and it turns them off. I'm looking for my soul mate
I want to walk hand in hand on the beach
I want a man who makes me laugh
By the way, men do the same thing using the sentence "she looks great in jeans but can dress up in a little black dress in a flash."
You want to be unique online. Be authentic but leave these sentences out or if you want to use them, create a story about walking on the beach or laughing that draws a man in.
Mistake #5: Bragging
One of my male friends recently was shaking his head about a woman's profile he'd read that morning. He told me initially he thought she was pretty... that is until he read her profile that started with the words, I am beautiful.
Ladies, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When you brag about your good looks, it just makes a man want to move on.
Mistake #6: Making demands
Nothing irritates a man more than a woman who makes salary or entertainment demands in her profile.
Even financially successful men have told me this is a huge turn-off. What pops in their heads when they read a profile like this are these two phrases that make them run:High maintenance and very demanding...someone they'll never be able to please.
A friend of mine wanted to dine in only the finest restaurants in town. She met a good guy and ended up cutting him loose because he had no interest in supporting her culinary expenses.
Funny thing is, about a year later, she wanted him back because she came to realize there was more to a relationship than just money. By that time, he'd moved on to a woman who could appreciate him for who he is not for his wallet.
Mistake # 7: False advertising
How many times have you gone on a date and met a man who looked nothing like his picture? Did you feel a little angry that he wasn't honest?
Men feel that way too. Be real about what you look like and let a man decide whether he wants to meet you based on your current pictures. A lot of women think, oh if he just gets to know me... but it doesn't work that way.
I knew a man who fell in what I like to call "strong like" with a woman's picture. When he showed up on the date, she was about 300 pounds heavier and about 10 years older than the picture displayed on the dating site.
He drove away when he saw her.You want a man to love you for who you are so make sure you show up the way you really look. Nothing angers all of us more than someone who isn't who they pretend to be.
Now go out and use what you've learned and let me know how it works for you by posting your comments below.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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