Many of us are concerned about the polarity, lack of tolerance and difficulty to accept other people’s opinions. We see and experience it on social media, in interpersonal communications and there seems to be a general atmosphere of polarity that is just unpleasant. Really, truly unpleasant.
And then comes Valentines Day. Skipping towards us from just around the corner with naïve old fashioned gestures of flowers, and chocolates, and cards of love and pink teddy bears.
Does it make you look at Valentines Day as if it almost came from another era? Older times? More naïve times? Society is polarized, we have a hard time accepting each other, divorce rates are high, and then- love is in the air-?
Does it even matter anymore? Does it make much sense?
So here is the thing.
Nowadays, more than ever- it does. And not only that it does, but we need love, positivity, kindness and chocolates – now more than ever.
And here is why:
Love matters because kindness matters:
The Dalai Lama has said: “My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness”.
Kindness is not only good for the recipients of acts of kindness, it is also good for those who initiate them. When we are kind to people around us, we would typically feel good about ourselves. Our brains would release increased levels of dopamine and our bodies would release more Oxytocin, a hormone directly related to our cardiovascular health, and a number of studies link kindness and good relationships to slowing down aging processes.
But kindness matters not only in terms of our health. Kindness is contagious from a social standpoint and causes us to cooperate more, and strengthen our sense of connection. In that sense it makes us more unite, better and stronger as a family, as a company or an organization, as a society.
So between our own personal wellness, the wellness of the organization that you work for or belong to and the wellness of all of us as a society- yes, kindness does matter.
Love matters because positivity matters:
Talking about health- positivity is crucial. Numerous studies have shown that optimists are stronger both physically and psychologically. Positivity also makes us perform better- at home, at work and in all aspects of our lives.
Our well being, as individuals and as a society, is centered around two things: Hope and Purpose. Positivity and hope go hand in hand. If we all keep our hope- whether in our own personal lives, in our professional lives or as a society overall- we can find a lot of purpose in working towards what we believe in, without falling into despair and negativity- not when it comes to our love life, not when it comes to finances, not when it comes to our job, or people we struggle with, or society in general.
Remember: Hope, Purpose and a positive mind, will not only be good for your health, but will also lead you towards more desirable outcomes. Keep pushing towards those.
Love matters because it is a strong force towards change:
I quote from Albert Einstein’s letter to his daughter: …” There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation to. ..This universal force is LOVE. When scientists looked for a unified theory of the universe they forgot the most powerful unseen force. Love is Light, that enlightens those who give and receive it. Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others. For love we live and die. Love is God and God is Love. This force explains everything and gives meaning to life”.
Thank you, Einstein. Need I say more?
So this Valentines Day, and every day, pledge to be more positive. We could all use more positivity from those around us. Pledge to be kind to those around you. Pledge to do something nice for someone. Pledge to understand those that you struggle to understand and get along with. Pledge to love more- because love truly does matter. Try it- and you will see changes greater than you thought possible..
Wishing you all a Happy Valentines, love and positivity always.