Why Porn Is Ruining Your Sex Performance and How You Can Save It Now

Porn is an easy outlet to express your sexual desires in a safe and comfortable atmosphere. You won't get hurt, you won't get caught having sex with another man, nor will you catch any STDs. It's the perfect environment to pick any scenario that suits your fancy without any judgement or fear.

You turn on the computer, go to your favorite porn site, search for a video that turns you on, imagine yourself in the scene, and rub one off. One, two, maybe six times a day. The next day, the same deal. You know the drill.

Then there's the aftermath of porn. After you ejaculate, you realize you're alone. The entire experience leaves you craving another man's touch, and leaves you a little depressed and fragmented. When the time comes for you to be with a man in real life, the expectations are incredibly high. You feel like you need to match the actions and scenarios played out in your favorite pornography. Sometimes you become so nervous that you're unable to get an erection or ejaculate even if you're getting it on with an attractive guy.

Porn can ruin your sex life because it's desensitizes you emotions and your nervous system. The Institute of Clinical Sexuality in Rome did a study that found out when men watch more porn they are more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction when having sex. The more porn you view, the more likely your sex life will suffer.

Your relationship with porn can also keep you from meeting and keeping true love because it's easy to get consumed with the limitless amount of options provided to you in your online pornography directory. Your subconscious thinks, "Why should I have to settle down with one guy when I can have a smorgasbord of any guy I want?" Truth be told, this type of relationship with porn is a virtual reality.

Luckily, there's hope for turning your sex life around, even if you're infatuated with porn.

All you have to do is turn to mindfulness practices.

Mindfulness teaches us to be aware. Become aware of your behavior and actions, and then you're a force to be reckoned with.

In practicing mindfulness, you simply observe what you do, how you do it, and when you do it. For example, let's say your sex performance is pretty low and you watch a lot of porn. You're already practicing mindfulness because you made those observations. Remember that mindfulness begins with simply making observations. To take this example a step further, ask yourself how you do it. Maybe you get off to porn 20x the amount that you have sex with another guy in real life, or maybe you think about porn when you're having sex. The 'how' will be different from person to person, so this is where you begin to deepen the observations behind your sexual behavior. Lastly, observe when you do it. Do you watch porn and jerk off when you wake up in the morning? Before you go to sleep? Between meetings? During lunch breaks?

Once you become aware of your current behavior, it's time for you to assess your ideal scenario. How do you envision your perfect sex life? How do you want to show up in bed and why is this important to you?

Answering these questions allow you to make mindful actions toward a healthier and happier sex life. It also allows you to become the man you want to be in bed with your partner. In this process, you may want to decrease the amount of porn you consume and spend more time interacting with sexual partners in real life.

To continue on a path of mindfulness, practices like yoga, meditation, support groups, and seeking out professional help for porn addiction are all helpful paths to save your sex life from becoming dormant and unsatisfying.

This article doesn't serve as a threat to completely eradicate porn, but it does promote mindfulness for sensitive gay men who are prone to isolation and loneliness as a result of increased pornography usage.

Max DuBowy is the author of the Ultimate Guide to Self Care for gay men who want to break free from stress and anxiety. Are you ready to love yourself unconditionally, meet, and keep the love of your life? INSTANTLY DOWNLOAD A COPY OF HIS FREE GUIDE HERE.