09/13/2011 04:29 pm ET Updated Nov 13, 2011

Girls Gone Zen: A New Zeitgeist

There's a new conversation on the streets of New York. What once was an island crowded with women competing and gossiping is now a community of happiness mavens who practice gratitude and self-love.

How did the country's influencers choose to change their ways? The way I see it, we had no choice. We finally figured out that we couldn't find happiness in some trendy club or plush boutique.

I can testify to this shift because I've been at its forefront. Today I'm a self-help book author and an inspirational speaker -- and I'm the happiest person I know. But I was once a Manhattan nightlife publicist and a strung-out hot mess. At 25, I hit bottom and traded in my fast-paced lifestyle for a more Zen approach. Since then I've been on a journey inward, seeking happiness through self-reflection, meditation and spiritual growth. Making this shift was the greatest choice I've ever made.

As a speaker and coach I've borne witness to a new zeitgeist. Trendsetting New York women like yoga maven Elena Brower, wellness warrior Kris Carr, healing goddess Latham Thomas and net-worth guru Marie Forleo are part of my posse that's leading the pack of today's "spirit junkies"!

And when women like us began to out our fears and share our stories, the women of New York followed suit. (I knew something major was happening when one of my coaching clients texted me to say she was listening to my meditations while waiting for her Botox appointment!)

Women today are realizing that happiness can't be found "out there." We can only find happiness by journeying inward. That's what I've been doing for the past six years and today I'm here to show you how escape the everyday fray and turn inward with a few simple steps to get your zen on!

Step One: Meditate. Meditation is the best way to calm your mind and reconnect with yourself. Find a space where you feel comfortable, sit up straight (cross-legged or in a chair), breathe deeply in your nose and out your mouth. For three minutes continue this cycle of breath. Centering into your breath is the key to meditation.

Step Two: Find a Community. In response to this feminine shift I created a website for women to support one another. The site is called HerFuture and it's a social network for women to find mentors and be mentors. Creating positive life change requires a power posse and this site is a space where women can help one another grow one loving connection at a time. If you're seeking a community make HerFuture your home-base for happiness.

Step Three: Choose Happiness. Becoming the happiest person you know is a choice -- a choice to transform old patterns and choose love over fear. It's not always easy, but it's simple. And it's the best work you'll ever do.

This week is the launch of Gabrielle's new book "Spirit Junkie, A Radical Road to Self-Love & Miracles"