Recently, I ran into a friend that I had not seen in ages.
She stopped me and said, "I read your blogs. 'Delete' was a favorite story because it gave me the determination and momentum to make changes in my personal life. I am much happier. I feel uplifted. Your story gave me the nudge I needed to rethink my feelings about my personal life style regarding my relationship with women and organizations. "
I nodded in agreement because, darlings, I owe my own social face lift, in part, to a close girlfriend. This close girlfriend is a very formidable woman. She has degrees in law and psychology, she is a successful businesswoman, a superb cook, she's married to a great guy, she does yoga and she is a fun loving girlfriend.
One day, I received a text from this girlfriend that read simply, "Call me."
I called immediately.
In her fast clipped manner, she said to me, "I added the word DELETE to my vocabulary. Been there, done that with women who play the one up you game, are self-absorbed and boring! I am 'deleting' them from my life! And that goes for some of my organizational work! I feel better already. I am finished kidding myself."
I detected no malice in her voice. She sounded as though she was just making a sound business deal to please herself. And, she sounded very uplifted!
We talked for a few minutes and hung up.
I was in my car, so I had plenty of time to think as I drove home. And my first thought, "That was a very strong statement!" My girlfriend had my attention. She made me think.
And, because I am a writer I visualized the delete key on my keyboard the moment she uttered the word delete! And then... I thought, "How simple it is to hit my delete key and watch a word or sentence vanish forever." The problem with my interpretation was that people and organizations are not just words!
My take away: The word 'delete' can have positive effects on our lives. But I've decided to use the word 'refresh' instead!
Darlings, maybe it is time to take a moment to rethink your relationships with some of the women in your life and open yourself to inviting some new and refreshing women into your social sphere.
And, maybe it is time to refresh the organizations you have supported for years that you have wanted to delete, not because they are unworthy, but because you have been introduced to ones that seem more fulfilling at this passage in your life.
Lastly, and most importantly, maybe it is time to take a look in the mirror and compare yourself to the woman you were five years ago, or even a year ago, versus the woman you are today.
In other words, don't stay stuck in relationships or organizations that do not feed your soul. When you rid yourself of unnecessary baggage, you will become a 'refreshed' woman. I know, because after I listened to my girlfriend and took action, I felt a weight of unnecessary baggage lifted from my shoulders. Taking the initiative to pare down my relationships and organizational commitments freed me to explore other options. New adventures!
Here is my upbeat analogy.
Spring is right around the corner, darlings! Springtime is the time we all sweep clean our closets and refresh our homes for the new season. I think it is the perfect time to consider refreshing some of your female relationships and some organizations.
If you no longer feel joy and fulfillment, dear darlings, sweep clean and refresh.
Now, I have to do my closet! Because, what served my wardrobe last year may no longer serve me this year. And that's O.K. When one door closes another one opens. And sometimes relationships end so that new ones can form. And that, my darlings, is quite simply refreshing.
Darlings, have you refreshed and swept clean any of your past unfulfilling relationships? How did you go about this in a way that exuded grace and humility? I'd love to hear your stories! Do tell, darlings! You can comment below or connect with me on Facebook, Twitter and even Instagram. LET'S TALK!