Being a mom blogger is frightening. First, there is the question of whether one should even admit to being a "mommy blogger" or if that is simply trampling on one's own writing credentials and throwing all the gains of feminism onto the trash heap. I, for one, think it is something to be very proud of and that the best parent blogging reminds us of why we created life and touches on the very core of our existence.
I think thousands and thousands of amazing women (and men) have shared their common experience as parents and thus the rest of us have become slightly more reflective, thoughtful and better parents. Blogging is writing, what else could it be? And the very best of this writing will tell the story of how we raised the next generation at the dawn of the 21st century.
Those issues aside, putting your parenting out in the public domain is no simple matter. It involves speaking about that which is closest to our hearts to a sometimes embracing, sometimes heartless, and sometimes even hostile public. Is it any wonder that writing about being a parent can breed insecurities where none existed before?
Writers who share their experiences of parenthood are a brave bunch but it is hard not to worry that...
- Our kids will grow up and there will be nothing to write about. Not one single thing.
- We are a one hit wonder. We have already told the one great story of our lives and the rest is so mundane that no one single genetically-unrelated person would be interested.
- We have put too much out there and have betrayed our family's privacy. And that the neighbors, kids' teachers and every former high school classmate is wondering about our good judgement.
- The sarcasm and foul language that works so well online will become a real life habit.
- Our kids will hate us one day for writing about them. That that day will come soon, maybe tomorrow. Or as soon as they can read.
- We are spending too much time on social media. We are not spending enough time on social media. That someone will create a new social media platform that will require even more time.
- There is not enough coffee on planet earth to raise kids, stay together as a couple, go to work, make dinner and write a blog.
- No one will ever take us seriously as a writer, no matter how many readers or fans we have. That the moniker "Blogger" has doomed us for a real writing career.
- We will never make a dime from our writing despite the hours of toil and great strides in the quality of our writing.
- We should get a "real job," one that involves IRL people, and a regular paycheck, not just online colleagues and friends who probably have real jobs.
- Every other blogger is more successful. Every single one.
- We will be successful and then run out of ideas. One day we will get a great opportunity, a post on Scary Mommy or The Huffington Post, and we will not be able to think of a single word to write.
- Our blog looks amateurish or unsophisticated despite paying a real designer real money to create it. We cannot justify paying more and fiddling with our blog design might just be rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.
- We need to spend money and invest in the blog and advertising if we are ever to make any money, but that spending money without an income stream is folly.
- Everyone else is being offered space on HuffPost Parents, featured posts by BlogHer and a trip to Disney and these things will never, ever happen.
- People only read us to be nice and then say nice things, to be nice. These people leave nice comments and push "like" without actually reading a word.
- We are not really writers, really. And that we will someday, soon, be uncovered for the frauds that we are.
- Being successful could result in needing to speak publicly and that, well, that is our worst nightmare. Worse than not being successful.
- We will go to a blogging conference and not one single person will speak to us. It will be worse than the first day of ninth grade at a new school. Far worse.
- Someone will realize that the prominently displayed headshot on the blog is photoshopped.
- We will write and rewrite, edit and re-edit, create something as close to perfection as our talents will allow. Then after doing battle with our inner demons, we will summon up the courage to push the POST button. And not one single person will notice.
- Our partner/spouse will think this is all a great waste of time.
- This is a great waste of time.
- All of that wonderful loving support by our partner/spouse, friends and family will have been misplaced when the whole venture turns out to be a failure. And the thought of other ways that the money could have been spent will haunt us.
- We were just too late to the party. That anyone who did not have their blog up by 2010 missed the chance to gain a real audience.
- If we could write that one great post, the one that goes viral and gets everyone's attention, that everything will change.
- If we write a viral post we will have no idea what to do next.
- If we don't join a ton of Facebook groups we will never know what is happening in the blogging world. If we join a ton of Facebook groups we will never have time to write another word.
- We will never receive a PR solicitation that is not junk mail.
- Blogging is done, over and that all that hard work should have been invested in an Instagram account.
- Our kids do not have enough interest in us to even bother reading our blog, or acknowledging that we have one.
Just one mom's opinion? Parenting is a multi-faceted experience and, while we each undergo it so differently, there will always be room for bloggers who write their truth. For in that truth are the words that reach out across any divide and touch the heart of another parent. Never do we feel less alone, less uncertain, and less plagued with the doubts that visited us the day our first child was born, then when someone writes their story and it is also ours.