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11/13/2014 02:41 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

How To Thrive and Live a Fulfilling Life After Loss

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"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit." -- Napoleon Hill, American author

Having dealt with loss of friends and family members, I am a witness to pain and also to joy. You can use your grief experience to go on a self discovery journey to find your life purpose.

You have the power to rewire your brain to think positively. You can use this positive affirmation "I have all the time to heal. I am loved and safe." Say it to yourself over and over again until it becomes ingrained in your mind on a subconscious level. I recommend having sticky notes with affirmative messages throughout your house and in your office to make the best of each day. If you start having negative and destructive thoughts, write them down on a piece of paper, rip them or burn them. By doing so, you will release them and tune in to your mind's love and acceptance channel.

If you are feeling especially vulnerable, put yourself in a happy bubble and don't let anyone to burst your bubble, which is your positive energy. Recognize a spiral of negative thinking and stop it in its tracks. Being a victim is easy as there is no responsibility. Happiness is a habit, not a decision. Just like fitness, you have to work on it. Find a beautiful journal and write what you are grateful for each and every day.

Meditation is a wonderful way to reconnect with your inner self and find wisdom and solace. Conscious and steady nostril breathing reduces panic and anxiety and calms down the mind. Give yourself a gift of remembering your loved ones. When meditating, close your eyes and think of a memory of your loved one. Add smells and sensations to your memory to make it come to life. Feel love and gratitude for what you have in your life and let grief flow freely without drowning you in it.

Don't rely on others to make you feel loved and safe. You are a master of your own domain and you are strong enough to have a vibrant and fulfilling life. Your energy field is felt by other people. Don't be a victim. Move beyond it. Healing is essential. To start your transformation, write down an opposite of your current story. Start making small changes.

A bigger picture is calling you. What are you meant to create and leave behind? This is a perfect time to start working on your legacy. Move from why to what. What am I meant to learn from this? Do something meaningful in your own life. Make a list of your loved one's values and follow them to honor their legacy. We honor loved ones by the way we live our lives. We become their voice.

Re-discover yourself, have courage to do new things, start enjoying life again. Take care of yourself by resting well, hydrating, taking walks and eating well so you are able to move forward. You are still connected with your loved one through your flowing love. When you move to an empowered place, it will help you find meaning and purpose. You can thrive and live a fulfilling life after loss.