01/07/2014 01:10 pm ET Updated Mar 09, 2014

3 Words That Will Improve Your Relationships

Many people read through my articles or see what I post on Facebook or Twitter and tell me that they wish their relationship could be "like that."

To all of you, absorb this: You have the power to do better.

Like anything in life, things don't come to those who wish, they come to those who actually take action and make changes in their life.

Are you not happy with the person you're with? Leave.

Do they mistreat you or act in ways that are unacceptable? Tell them, and if they don't change, leave.

Are they physically or emotionally abusive in any way? Leave. Now.

I understand that it's not always that easy. Life gets in the way, there are circumstances that don't always make standing up and walking out the door a realistic option. But, any time is the perfect time to begin making positive changes in your life and your relationship. Literally, right now.

The one and only way to do this is to apply three simple words that will change your life:

Raise. Your. Standards.

Once you raise your standards and absolutely cut out any possibility of accepting less, you'll find you very often get your standards met. If someone isn't meeting your standards, you cut them out of your life. If you're not meeting your own standards, then you take action in order to improve. Either way -- there are no two ways about it -- your standards do not get moved.

Do not waste your years wishing that a person will change -- raise your standards and if they truly care, they will rise up to meet them. If not, then you have dodged a bullet.

Do not waste your years self-loathing while accepting less than you deserve -- raise your standards and when that is the only thing you accept in life, that is what you will get.

Do not waste one more moment of your time with someone who doesn't make you happy -- you can't get any of it back. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

James Michael Sama is a writer, actor and public speaker who writes regularly on his website