02/18/2015 01:41 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

5 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Dream

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We all have a dream. To do the very thing that we love to do that makes us feel fulfilled, vibrant, and more alive. The very thing that excites us every day and leaves us in a state of wonder over all of our opportunities for creation.

But how many of us actually make those dreams a reality? The trouble is that for many of us, we have these dreams but we stop before we even really begin. We have limiting beliefs that sneak in and tell us things like "I don't have the time or money to start this" or "I'll never be able to make a living doing that".

Whenever these thoughts come up it feels like being a dog on a leash - you want to run and you have all the energy and inspiration to, but you have this collar around your neck with a leash attached to it holding you back.

So what can we do to stop self-sabotaging ourselves so that we CAN create the life of our dreams?

1. Keep focused on the dream. Every time we make progress and a thought like "I can't do this because..." comes up, we must to stop, breath, and focus on the goal. We must focus completely on the outcome that we want to create. The more energy that we put into focusing on that dream then the more fuel we give that dream over our mind's pessimism.

2. Stay persistent. Envision the dreams in our mind's eyes and then create a plan. We need to ask ourselves: What can we do every day to take us one step closer to making our dream a reality? Everyone fails and struggles in the process of making their dream come true. Even Walt Disney had plenty of rejections, but he succeeded through his persistence.

3. Trust that our inner guide has all the answers we need. During those moments when we have really been struggling to draft a plan on how to achieve our goal, stop and be still. The answers to all of our questions on our journey are already buried deep down within us. And, chances are, the answers may have already popped up in our minds as a thought or idea but we just haven't fully acknowledged and accepted it. Pay close attention to those random thoughts and ideas as they come up.

4. Relax and be passive when we feel the need to. Our modern day society has taught us that productivity is not occurring unless we are actively working. Guess what? This is not true! Our moments of relaxation, reflection and looking within are just as equally important as being active. We must learn to pay close attention to our own needs and desires at each given moment and trust that acting on them is exactly what we need to move closer to our dream.

5. Be patient and have faith that all will be okay. Though we can set up a plan to make our dreams a reality, we can never really know the results so we must allow ourselves to trust and have faith. The results will come when they are truly meant to come, so we have to have patience and be easy on ourselves. The ego-driven habit is to worry and become restless. Breath. Enjoy the moment. Enjoy the process of getting there. After all, it is the journey through the obstacles that create greater depth and meaning than the outcome itself.


What are some things that you've always wanted to do in life but you've never let yourself do it? What excuses have you been telling yourself? What can you do today to bring you a step closer to making that dream a reality?

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