01/14/2013 11:13 am ET Updated Mar 16, 2013

Why Can't You Have Your Best Year Yet?


Why can't you have your best year yet in 2013? If you're like me, the answers are all too easy to find. Just ask your ever-present little genie, who will instantaneously provide the reasons. For example:

  • I'm too busy.
  • I can't afford it.
  • I'm too old.
  • I've already had my best year yet.
  • I don't know how.
  • You must be kidding me, right?
  • And more...

Maybe it's because I've had a terrible cold since New Year's Day, when we usually make our personal plans for the coming year. Maybe I was just exhausted from the holidays. Whatever it was, this year I couldn't get beyond the blahs to find a bit of excitement (let alone confidence) about the coming year.

As I explained to Tim, I'm just too busy. Yes, I know we've sold the business and we have enough to live comfortably without having to work, but...

  • Every day I wake up to the to-do list.
  • Things still have to be done.
  • I need to be at my desk by 9 a.m., and there's always enough to keep me there most of the day.

It goes on and on -- I just can't stop! My nose is stuck to the grindstone, and I have no idea how to get it off.

I hope you're not shocked hearing this story from Mrs. Best Year Yet, but all I could see was more and more proof of my complaints. It was all too real -- I'd be kidding myself if I tried to feel differently. So, you see, this is why I can't have my best year yet.

What's on your list of reasons why it's not going to happen for you? These concepts, these complaints, these theories, these perceptions are the answer to why you can't have your best year yet. So please do as I had to do: Take a deep breath. Yes, all this stuff exists. Yes, there's a lot to do. Yes, there are issues and problems, but it's our attitude (I'm a victim!) that keeps us from having a great year. That's the source of the problem, and that we can change -- because we made it all up in the first place!

And so I turned my mind to find the state of being that I wanted this year by asking myself, "What would be true if this were really my best year yet?" My answer?

"I'm free at last!"

That's the reality I want to manifest. Just saying these words brings me a thrill. Not only is Tim right about where we are in life, but also I can already sense that the meaning and significance of this statement are going to expand as the days and months go by.

No, our new reality doesn't come true just by finding our new paradigm, but knowing I have a place I want to go makes it possible for me to let go of all those reasons why I can't have my best year yet. So I suggest that the answer to the question "Why can't you have your best year yet?" is the same for all of us:

"There's no reason why I can't have my best year yet -- it's up to me!"

Other than letting go of our reasons why it's not possible, there is nothing more useful we can do to make this a great year. Doing so is the heart of your personal transformation.

Last week, I shared about answering the first three questions of the 10-question planning process. This blog you're reading focuses on the most important question of the 10, question four: How do I limit myself, and how can I stop? Once you have your new paradigm for the coming year, answering the last six questions is easy. Last year, I gave detailed information about completing your plan from this point forward:

I'm passionate about helping others to have their best year yet, so ask for help if you need it. I'd love to hear about your plans for 2013. Either leave a comment below or email me at

With much love,


P.S. If you want to skip reading the blogs to understand how to make your plan, here are a number of other ways to do so:

1. Read "Your Best Year Yet!" in either paperback or e-book format -- both include a workbook for making your plan. To purchase, see the images below this article.

2. Download and read "Three Hours to Change Your Life" -- a free excerpt from my book.

3. Get the new free web app for making your 2013 plan.

4. Find a Best Year Yet Coach or tell your own coach about this process.

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