12/14/2011 10:41 am ET Updated Feb 13, 2012

A Purple Heart for Christmas

I'm glad the United States is bringing America's sons and daughters, our troops, home from Iraq before Christmas.

My son Bryan died in Iraq, in a town named Albu Hyatt, north of Bagdad, Sept. 6, 2007.

He and 3 others died, but 40 to 50 troops behind them lived.

A suicide bomber gunned a newer model truck, loaded with explosives, at them from a checkpoint less than one block in front of them.

I reenacted this event with my truck, and found Bryan had one and half seconds to react in this quick ambush.

The West Point graduate who designed this roadblock got a bronze star and then a job with a private contractor.

And I got Bryan's Purple Heart for his service.

The Iraq war has only affected a few families personally, unless you count higher fuel prices and a larger national debt.

The ones closer to the war have had their lives changed forever.

Just like mine, and Bryan's friends, who put the fire out while others in America were attending football games.

Looking forward to Christmas I think of past years, when we would play cards until late in the evening. Sometimes laughing until our eyes watered.

This upcoming Christmas, I thought about putting Bryan's Purple Heart medal at his chair and deal out the cards. But I know it will not be the same,

It all began with him pledging allegiance to the flag and starting each sporting event with the Star Spangled Banner.

America was someone he trusted to always tell the truth.

He trusted our leaders as he trusted teachers and coaches to be on the right side of humanity.

Never did he think the people behind our flag would lie to him, burn his remains and throw his ashes into a landfill.

He was awarded a purple heart, but no answers to the Iraq war.

George Bush shrugged his shoulders and said "faulty intelligence, next question please." Later I heard him say he wishes he had better intelligence at the time.

So, if George Bush wishes this, why not tell us who was responsible for this faulty intelligence, because each source would lead to a person's name.

I know it's awkward for our Justice Department to investigate the ones who appointed them, so this would relieve that pressure.

And heaven forbid, we don't want to make this mistake again.

Maybe I should be happy with a Purple Heart medal here at Christmas, knowing we are free of Iraqi drones overhead. And not look at our rulers behind our flag.

But it's hard not to when you lose a son.