10/06/2014 04:26 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Do You Want to Be Cool?

Growing up, it seems that everyone just wants to be cool, but no one wants to say so. We inherently want to fit in, because at the end of the day, we all just want to be loved and accepted.

But do you know what that all starts with? Loving and accepting yourself.

Now, if I'm being completely honest here, I do think I have tried my best to stick to my guns as I've gotten older and be true to myself; however, I'd be lying if I said there weren't any times that I did something because I thought that's what I should do or what others wanted me to do (like maybe my first career).

Straying from the norm isn't the easiest. It isn't the fastest way to make friends or find success. I look back to high school or college at people who really went their own way and stood out for being completely and utterly themselves. And I have to give some serious props for having the strength and courage to do so.

Realizing that what you want may not be the same as others is scary, but it's also completely normal.

Think about it: We are all given our own wants, needs, dreams, talents, and skills. If no one person is the same, then how on earth are we all accepting the idea that we should funnel in to certain careers, lives, or stereotypes?

The heck with that!

No, thank you. I'd like to carve my own path, please.

This may sound extremely silly to those of you who have realized this already or have had this mindset for years, but I'm over being cool. I'm redefining what it means to me. Cool is doing what you love. It's waking up every morning excited for what's ahead. It's creating positive change. It's adding a little more love and energy to our world. It's being the most authentic YOU that you can be.

Take it from the Cool Expert, Miki Agrawal. While I may have dubbed her that myself, I think it's undeniably deserved. For those of you who haven't read her book, Do Cool Sh*t, you are seriously missing out. It's all about her path to entrepreneurship, and it is refreshingly honest and inspiring.

In Do Cool Sh*t, Miki says,


So now the question is:

Who wants to be cool with me?

This article was originally posted on Quarter for Your Crisis, an online community built to inspire and empower people to turn their passions into a bigger purpose.