09/03/2014 03:33 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Live Your Own Path

The quarter-life crisis is a tricky little fiend.

It can make us jealous of others' paths while simultaneously pushing us to discover our own. Watching others succeed does a funny thing to us QLC-er's (... like inventing our own words for instance). We are genuinely happy when we see our friends, family, or colleagues kicking butt in the real world and making strides in their lives. But at the same time, it can make us feel extremely insecure about what we're doing and where we are in our own lives.

We long for that same success, stability, security, confidence -- whatever it may be. We think: man, maybe I should follow in their footsteps.. they seem so happy with where they are!

We watch from the sidelines, wondering how it feels to be the star quarterback. The successful one. The one who's got it all together.

But you know what the problem with that is? No one has it all together.

Everyone's on this journey, alone and together at the same time. Why should you spend your valuable time here on earth vying for the lives or successes of others? Wouldn't it be so much sweeter to find that in your own way?

You could follow in someone else's footsteps just to realize that what makes them happy and what feeds their soul isn't what works for you. And why should it be? We all need different things in our lives -- and what each of us needs changes throughout our lives as well. So how in the world could we possibly hope to have it all together at any one point in time?

So instead of evaluating your life by the success and dreams of others, start by looking inwards.

As the Bhagavad Gita says,


This post was originally published on Quarter For Your Crisis, an online community created to share stories of those who don't think normalcy is an option and who want to actually live and breathe their passions.