The Daddy Dearest I wrote about in one of my May posts has created his own blog about being a 'Mammo' (Mr. Mom) in Italy. It's a tough battle he's waging in 21st Century Italy to be the kind of father he wants to be.
Here's an excerpt from his opening post:
My strong parenting feelings and the instinctive way in which I am a father, has literally thrown many of our friends and relatives. What seems to bother a certain old-fashioned mentality is that by taking care of my son, I take over spaces that are traditionally reserved for mothers.
I've often been called a Mr Mom; in the best of cases people tell me I 'should have been born a woman' and in the worst of cases, that I am 'a woman without a uterus.'
I am convinced the distinction between 'maternal role' vs 'paternal role' is no longer relevant.
Our society has swept away the male and female peculiarities of the past. Nowadays it's best to say 'parental role', wherein mothers and fathers take care of their kids in the same way - either jointly or taking turns.
Although this reality is becoming increasingly the norm in Italy, it's taking far too long to be accepted at a conceptual and cultural level. Parents and society have both changed, but the protagonists themselves are taking too long in realising what has happened to them.
I am convinced there are many Mr Moms in Italy. and it is primarily for them that I decided to create the SOS Mammo blog. But, why not, I also created it for all those mothers that want to talk about their parenting experiences and adventures in the New Millennium.