THE BLOG
12/08/2014 12:17 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Are You Reacting Rather Than Responding to Your Life?

For years I have talked with clients about choosing to not live their lives from a place of fear.

Fear is often something we suffer through, push down, numb out and allow to hold us back and dim our light.

Consciously living my life, practicing my recovery, I choose every day to live my life from a place of love and not fear. Some days this work is easy, some days it feel nearly impossible.

Through this work I have also discovered that this has everything to do with how I connect with the people in my life and the world.

The difference between responding and reacting

When we react we come from a place of fear.

When we respond we come from a place of love.

My work in ever upward includes making sure I live everything and every day from the place of love. It is making sure I respond and not react.

Reacting

Before the work of my recovery, before surviving IVF, I reacted to my life.

And I reacted a lot.

I used to be called angry. To which I angrily replied that I was just passionate. But, now as I live the work and practice of recovery, I now have the language.

I was living my life from the place of fear.

The place of never being good enough.

The place of always comparing myself to others.

The place of I'm too much, you don't love it and I don't love it, and therefore I am scared of it.

Responding

After the work, especially in the last year of my recovery, which includes The Daring Way work, I have learned that this reacting doesn't truly honor who I am or who I want to be.

I am passionate. I am determined. I am ever upward.

And, this means actively choosing to live from a place of love. It means actively choosing to respond.

When I respond to my life, rather than react...

I will always be enough.

I won't need to compare because I am incomparable.

And, my too much is exactly just right.

An intention of wholeheartedness

Some may think reacting and responding look the same to the outside person. However, I think if we really make this choice to live from a place of love and to respond to our lives rather than to live from a place of fear and to react to our lives what we put into the world will be a much more accurate picture of who we are and who we want to be. In the least, I know my intention between the two feels completely different to me. Living my life from a place of love means I move through the fear and I don't live from it. It means I am living with the intention of wholeheartedness and moving ever upward.

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And, I promise, no I guarantee, only amazing things can be born of that.

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