11/04/2011 03:17 pm ET Updated Jan 04, 2012

Defining "Success" When Reinventing Your Life

We talk about change -- but is it really change that we want? It's a little overwhelming to tackle "change" -- evolution is really the better approach, not so daunting, a little at a time, slowly turning the Titanic would be a good analogy.

We are all wired to be who we are but it doesn't mean we have to change who we are, just how we go about life and knowing what we really want.

We can change the little things to create a great inner peace and sense of doing right by ourselves. It's the self nurturing that feeds our soul and our ability to give ourselves what we deserve. Many people walk around complaining about what they could have done or wish they were doing with their lives.

The question is what would you do if you could... and what is your measurement of "success?" We all define this word differently and we need to understand how to truly answer this to find the road map to our own happiness.

I define "success" as waking up every day looking forward to what the day holds and then going to bed with a sense of accomplishment.

On a personal level -- it was important that I hugged and kissed my children enough, that I listened to them and really heard and absorbed what they said, how they felt and connected with them so they could look in my eyes and knew it.

To be there for my husband and listen to his needs and be able to kiss and hug each other, at least once if we're having a busy and disjointed day.

If I can check a few significant items off my business to do list and make a client happy, and make progress towards our business goals, that's a good day... that's success.

Everything else fills my life but those are things that I keep an eye on.

The big picture of success is so personal -- for me it's having the freedom to enjoy what's around me -- to go through the days and weeks and months knowing I'm on a path that will provide me with the freedom to enjoy life and create balance and harmony.

What's your idea of success? Start to contemplate the markers in your life, the expectations you are setting for yourself and really define what matters to you.

At different stages in our lives, we may define success differently -- allow yourself to change how you define success. Be open to the possibility that was important 10 years ago may be completely different now. Allow it and create your reinvention based on that new ideal.

Some inspiring quotes to ponder on your journey:

"Action is the foundational key to all success." -- Pablo Picasso

"Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally." -- David Frost

"Don't confuse fame with success. Madonna is one; Helen Keller is the other." -- Erma Bombeck

"Failure is success if we learn from it." -- Malcolm Forbes

Happy Reinventing!