We all know that it takes a village nowadays to raise our children and carry them from Kindergarten to graduation, so consider today the day you just added me to your personal village.
06/10/2013 03:06 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

1. Kindergarten and the early years: AVOID the Matthew Effect! If you do not know what the Matthew Effect is, please watch my Huff Post live segment in order to understand the great importance of this topic.

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2. Elementary School: The most important years for building the fundamental math skills are grades 2-5. I will have my children in some sort of math boot camp during those years, or the summer between those grades in order to solidify the basics. I don't mean my 3rd grader will necessarily have a private tutor, maybe or maybe not. She will, though, spend some time either in the summer or during the year attending a supplemental math program that enforces math drills, math facts and basic computation. She will be as comfortable with her times tables, her division skills, her fractions, decimals and percents, as she is with searching on Google and running around a soccer field. I believe in drills, repetition and consistency for these fundamentals. So, my future daughter or son better come into the world knowing that their Mommy is a math tyrant, and already has them signed up for summer math boot camps at my education company, Generation Think.

3. Middle School (6th-8th Grade): I will find the balance between micromanaging and letting them find their footing. I think middle school years are pivotal in teaching students the skills of self-sufficiency and independence. Now, as we all know, every student needs a different amount of coddling vs. freedom at different stages of maturity, but either way, you have to release the talons a bit during these years. By 9th grade, students really need to be, and their school will expect them to be, independent thinkers and doers in many regards. The skills of responsibility and autonomy are learned and practiced in the 6th-8th grade years. As much as it will be hard for me as a mom, and even harder as a Type A educational expert, I will let my middle schooler rise, fall and dust herself off without my constant intervention. Micromanaged and perfectly scheduled middle schoolers turn into dependent and struggling high schoolers more often than not. Trust me, it is not a pretty sight and it is exhausting for both parent and student.

4. High School: I will start prepping my student for the PSAT exam starting a little in the summer between 9th-10th grade, and a lot in the summer between 10th and 11th grade. I know that unless you are an innately brilliant standardized test taker, that it takes time for many students to master test taking strategies and skills. I am a HUGE fan of prepping for the PSAT exam -- Preliminary Scholastic Aptitude Test. It is literally the SAT's little brother test. The exam is administered by almost all high schools in October of junior year, and by an increasing number of private high schools in the sophomore year as well. I think that standardized exams are very difficult overall, so I believe that any edge you can give your student, and any extra boost of familiarity and confidence on these exams, the better.

5. High School and getting into college: I will encourage my children to become "well-lopsided" and not "well-rounded" during their high school years. During my generation, becoming well-rounded was a key strategy for getting into a great college, but today, not so much. Having your child focus on one or two key activities/commitments is what colleges today are looking for. Keep in mind though, the one or two activities should be something your student really loves to do. These activities do not have to fit into the traditional "extracurricular" parameters. If my son loves surfing, then I will encourage him to commit to the sport. If my daughter loves design, I will see to it that we help her to take drawing classes, get a summer internship or job at an apparel company, and we will make sure her academic load isn't so heavy that she can't enjoy her passion.

Now you have it straight from Kelly Trotter King. These are certainly "Five Must Do" educational recommendations that I focus on with my clients, and will with my own children as well. We all know that it takes a village nowadays to raise our children and carry them from Kindergarten to graduation, so consider today the day you just added me to your personal village.