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12/31/2014 11:21 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

12 Ways to Know If a Man (or Woman) Will Sexually Turn You On

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Have you ever said to a girlfriend, "He's such a great guy; but when I'm with him, I don't feel any passion." Or, "She's really pretty but she just doesn't turn me on." Or, "I meet so many boring men, why can't I meet one who excites me?"

Do you seldom meet somebody you feel an immediate chemistry? If your regular dating experience is that you rarely meet someone who sexually attracts and interests you - it could be because you are dating the wrong type of man (or woman) to fit your needs.

If your Sun signs are compatible you may feel a basic attraction to somebody. But your Mars sign will describe the kind of person you'll feel an immediate physical chemistry. This will be someone who's most likely to turn you on, (as in "hot and excited"). The planet Mars rules your physical energy, actions, the way you initiate and your drive. Whether you're a man or a woman, it rules your sex drive. In simple terms: Mars is the planet of passion and sexuality.

You can date men, women or the same sex, but as the actress Sharon Stone said in her famous Vanity Fair interview, "It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that schwing." So, it's important to know what sign your Mars is in - if you want to feel amazing chemistry in your relationship and find someone you're sexually compatible. This valuable knowledge will help you avoid getting stuck with someone who will prove to be a big disappointment in the bedroom.

At the end of this article, you can use the FREE Transit Calculator to find out your Mars sign. Then, look it up (in the list below) to learn about your unique sexual needs and the signs you'll be most compatible. Here is a list of the 12 Mars signs:

Mars in ARIES

Your passions are hot and quickly ignited. You're the initiator and like to pursue or be enthusiastically pursued. You aggressively go after what you want and are likely to be very assertive in your sex life, whether it's a one-night stand or a long-term love relationship. You have great stamina in the bedroom.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Aries, Leo, Sagittarius and Libra.

Mars in TAURUS

Your passions are earthy and sensual. Money, success and the material turn you on. Someone who enjoys the finer things of life can be very exciting. When aroused, you're determined and willing to spend lots of energy in sexual pursuit. While you like to be cuddled and caressed, once your passions are engaged you are a patient and skilled lover who has great endurance.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn and Scorpio.

Mars in GEMINI

Your "sex switch" is turned on and your passion is aroused only when you're mentally engaged. You like the adventure that leads up to lovemaking, but if the affair loses it's intellectual excitement or becomes dull, you're ready to bail. This is why you often have multiple affairs. You enjoy variety in sex and like to keep it fun. If the other person can charm you and make you laugh, you are there's.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Gemini, Libra, Aquarius and Sagittarius.

Mars in CANCER

Your sexual feelings grow stronger for the other person if they make you feel safe and protected. You don't feel comfortable with a lover who makes you feel insecure. You're sexually turned on when your partner makes an emotional connection with you. Sex for you is sensuous and feeling because you love to nurture your partner. You make love by intuition, especially when you feel a psychic connection to the other person. Your passion can disappear if you experience your lover as insensitive or unresponsive to your needs.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces and Capricorn.

Mars in LEO

You require romance to be truly excited about a sexual affair. You're playful, hot and spontaneous. As a natural actor, you love drama and enjoy performing in the boudoir. But it's important your partner make you feel loved, adored and respected. You don't need conventional places for lovemaking. You can do it in the Kasbah, Joe's Bar or the back-of-the-car. Passionate and affectionate, you enjoy making love in luxurious or opulent surroundings as befits the princess (or prince) you are.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Leo, Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Mars in VIRGO

Your shyness can make you appear demure or prudish. Your cautiousness can cause you to keep tight reign on your strong passionate nature. But in reality you're hot and earthy behind closed doors. You're turned on to a partner who's physically engaging, mentally exciting, well groomed and hygienically clean. You can make love like a fine craftsman who knows exactly what buttons to push for pleasure.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn or Pisces.

Mars in LIBRA

Your sexual nature is likely to operate at extremes. You can be a bit shy and reserved towards sex, requiring that you be romantically sought after instead of being the aggressor. Yet, you have the capacity to be impulsive and very sensuous in your sexual behavior. Your tendency to be refined, classy and esthetically oriented, means that crudeness of any kind, such as vulgar language, turn you off. You prefer sexual relationships that are more cultivated and sophisticated. And if he (or she) dresses well and is gorgeous, you can turn into a sensuous lover rather quickly.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Libra, Gemini, Aquarius and Aries.

Mars in SCORPIO

You have an intense sexual nature that is extremely emotional and deeply felt. Your emotional-based sexuality shows itself when you display strong emotions such as jealousy, anger, resentment and hurt. Your desire to experience powerful lovemaking can lead you to be possessive of the other person in and out of the bedroom. Unlike certain signs that desire sex because they are "horny," you have a physical need for it in order to feel a profoundly close connection to your partner.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces and Taurus.

Mars in SAGITTARIUS

You have a sexually open, adventuresome, exploratory nature. It can be hard to pin you down to one intimate relationship because you like having your freedom. The emotional commitment that is often a part of sex can feel restrictive to you. There's a part of you that would like to be free like Peter Pan and not "grow up." When sexually engaged, you're passionate, sensuous and adventurous. You want a sexual connection with someone who is open, honest, spiritual and enjoys exploring as you do.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Sagittarius, Aries, Leo and Gemini.

Mars in CAPRICORN

While you're very proper in public, you have a very earthy and passionate sexual nature. However, you often struggle with a need for self-control that can make you an inhibited lover. This can result in a need to control sex and make it conform to your personal set of rules. But you have the capacity to be hot-blooded, romantic and sexy; yet at other times you can be cold, serious and detached. When you're sexually engaged, you're a "hot" and skilled lover behind closed doors.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo and Cancer.

Mars in AQUARIUS

You have a unique sexual nature that alternates between a need for freedom in your sexual relationships and a desire for having one that seems traditional. You like being friends with your lover but dislike being possessed by him (or her). You are capable of passionate sexual involvements; yet can be quite independent and detached from intimacy. You are a very original lover and enjoy experimenting. You can be quite kinky in bed and know how to please.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Aquarius, Gemini, Libra and Leo.

Mars in PISCES

Your sexuality comes from the intensity of feelings you have for the other person and a strong romantic connection. You can be a chameleon who bewitches your lover to fulfill his (or her) fantasy. Passionate and sensual, sex is your way of becoming more intimate and drawing closer to the person you're attracted. You are inspired to make love out of a desire to connect with a soul mate who fits your ideal.

Sexually: You're very sexually compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio and Virgo.

To learn what sign your MARS is in, use the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. It will compute your personal transits for 2015 and the planets in your birth chart. Then, make sure to scroll down to the end of the page, where you'll see your planets and the sign they're in. You will see the sign your MARS is in. And, if you're curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope in 2015 - and what it says about your love relationships, career, investments and health in: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2015.

Larry Schwimmer is an astrologer in private practice. For private consultations on your compatibility with someone, contact him at: Larry@astrodecision.com or go to www.AstroDecision.com

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Larry Schwimmer is president of Astrodecision.com, a San Francisco-based consulting company. The firm uses planetary cycles analysis to counsel individual and corporate clients on picking the "best dates" to make successful decisions of all types: personal, marketing, financial, and political. The firm currently advises a diverse client base that includes politicians, presidents of major corporations and an MLB baseball team. Schwimmer is an internationally known business consultant, life coach and astrologer (with a Fortune 500 M&A background). Visit his website: www.astrodecision.com