01/30/2015 10:21 pm ET Updated Apr 01, 2015

Do You Have Metabol-Envy?

Yesterday, I sat with a friend, and she said if she could have one wish it would be to be able to eat whatever she wanted and not gain weight. I clarified, "You mean instead of your family being healthy or world peace?" She said, "Well one wish or thing I could change about myself." I think I believe that last part. The truth is, I hear all about these friends, siblings or coworkers who can eat whatever they want. I've sent the majority of session consoling clients over metabolic diversity (or injustice in their eyes). "I have to work so hard at this," or "I am eating the salad while they are having fries" -- I've heard it all and have a few things to say about these "everything eaters."

  • Oftentimes, they don't always eat like this. Think of the celebrity with a giant burger or ice cream cone. Many people eat differently out vs. at home or on weekends vs. weekdays. And many don't want to appear to watch what they are eating.
  • Chances are they will not be able to eat this way forever. When 20-something clients tell me about their French toast-ordering friends, I tell them to wait a few years. Forty has a way of leveling the metabolic playing field. And know that's it's most difficult for people to watch their weight who have never had to think about it.
  • Everything eaters have arteries too. I worry about the insides of naturally-thin people. I actually told my friend with the wish above that even if I could eat anything without gaining (and I can't and never could) I would still drink green juice and eat wild salmon. Part of me likes it but part of me also likes how I feel and knowing I am taking care of my health (hello, family history of heart disease).
  • At the end of the day, metabol-envy is just envy. There will always be someone who is taller, richer and more successful. Focusing on them really takes us away from our game.

If I have any form of envy it's confidence envy. I would love (though maybe not since I turned 40) to be the person who parades around in a bathing suit or feels no need to cover up. My friend gave me some advice about this one. She said it's all about practice. People who are super comfortable on the beach aren't generally on the beach a handful of days a year. So I'm off to plan a beach trip where I will watch what I'm eating. I have no problem being that person.

Do you have metabol-envy? Do you know an "everything eater"? If you could change one thing about yourself/your body what would it be?