02/13/2014 07:16 am ET Updated Apr 15, 2014

Not Looking Forward To Valentine's Day, Ladies?

There are some days where being single is really hard. February 14 happens to be one of them. You can't help but pass colorful storefront windows loaded with Valentine's Day ideas and gifts. You find your email box loaded with and Groupon offers to wine and dine you and the sweetheart you wish you had. Everywhere you look it seems like couples are holding hands and kissing.

The huge emphasis on Valentine's Day love can feel so intense that not only do you feel lonely on this day, but you may also feel left out of something that seems to be universally happening for everyone else.

When this happened to me, it really surprised me. After all, I was supposed to be one of those women who felt okay being single. I'm sure it's no surprise that lots of men and women find Valentine's Day one of the hardest days of the year to get through.

I knew if I wanted to "feel the love" that day, I was going to have to make that happen by doing something really nice for myself. I picked up dinner for myself from my favorite Thai restaurant. I topped off the delicious curry dish with the best ice cream in the world, Graeter's chocolate chip ice cream.

Then I filled my bathtub with hot water and a few drops of lavender oil. I luxuriously soaked and read a novel I'd been meaning to get to for a while. By the time I was done, I was feeling pretty good about myself.

I decided there was no way I was spending Valentine's Day alone the following year, so I toweled off and headed to my computer to look for a good man.

Just so you know, even men can feel the sadness of being alone on Valentine's Day and you will probably find quite a few hanging out at your favorite online dating site just waiting for you this week!

Unless you want a repeat of spending the evening alone next Valentine's Day, then now may be the time for getting out of your comfort zone by putting your picture and profile online to start looking for a great guy.

All you have to do is plant yourself in front of your computer for half an hour. Try a new dating site you've never had a profile on before. There might be new men you've never come across before on there and you'll seem new to them too.

The beauty of online dating is that even on the coldest night, you can meet new guys while feeling all snuggly in your pajamas inside your warm and cozy house.

Be daring as you look for love this week. Start a chat conversation with a man online that looks interesting to you. Allow yourself to feel what its like to flirt again. Be short and sweet as you answer his questions. And remember to ask him questions too!

In fact, why not have three or four different chats going at the same time? I know it sounds silly but it can be so much fun and there is something so sexy about lots of male attention all at once that will make you feel really good and really desirable!

I hope this encourages you to make this week a good one by giving yourself a special treat and by heading online for some wonderful male attention. Let me know how your online flirting goes!

Lisa Copeland is the Dating Coach who makes dating over 50 fun and easy. Find out more at

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